[wonderwoman24]

Sorry your going through this.

First step is acknowledging you were in the wrong, which sounds like you are.

Stick with it and know every decision you make now is for the good of your daughter and just work to try and rebuild the trust. Sounds like it may require some time and patience but try stay strong and hang on in there.

We all make mistakes it’s just how we then deal with them.

Good luck!

[wonderwoman24]

Hiya my ex left me after been together for almost 13 yes, my 4 kids were 11, 9, 1 and 4 months old at the time and it hit me like a bus didn’t see it coming at all. There is no magic cure I’m afraid but I did everything to try make it work so I wouldn’t carry any guilt for not trying. Hardest thing I’ve ever experienced. We have been separated 18 months now, I was doing ok,  bit of a relapse at the moment. The point is it will take time, some very hard days ahead, but some easier ones too. Make sure you have a support network, if you want to talk anytime feel free to message me. Look after yourself.

[wonderwoman24]

Hiya I am single mum of four near to Milton Keynes. I have been single for about 18 months was doing relatively ok but last couple of weeks feeling lonely, isolated, tired!! You are definitely not alone and always happy to message you and chat 😊.

[wonderwoman24]

It’s absolutely terrifying! I’ve had some very hard days, but take them one day at time. I have remained in the house, I got legal advice telling me he would find it very hard to force me out with the kids, so provided I can pay the bills I can stay. Its not been the easiest on days and every now and then the ex will call and bring me back to day one of it all. It just gets easier that’s all. Now I just feel stupid for trying so hard to keep the relationship and mend it. Every action and memory brings pain, you just learn to deal with it. For now though you have to accept your allowed to be sad and angry and upset and there is no miracle cure – it just takes time….but there is hope!!!

[wonderwoman24]

I 100% understand how you feel, single parent with 4 kids the youngest was 4 months when the dad left us. He supposedly does  “co parent” if you can call 30 days a year parenting. I work full time from home as I can’t afford the childcare to get back to an office, and feel like I have no chance of meeting anyone. My eldest doesn’t want me dating either. It’s only been one year and I have days which drive me insane and it feels like a new battle every day to deal with. You are incredibly strong to have survived so long and you are definetly not alone in this. P.s. not quite Hertfordshire but I’m from Bedfordshire.

[wonderwoman24]

I am a year in from separating, we were together almost 13 years had 4 children youngest was 4 months at the time and was the child he begged me to have.

The answer is yes, it doesn’t feel like it now but every day does get better and you will have days which feel worse.

It’s still not over now its a long process, now I’m irritated with how I was so stupid and everything he does irritates the hell out of me.

My best advice, talk to people, let the feelings out, let yourself cry, I actually had to get a book and I write in it every evening everything that’s in my head before bed to try and get some sleep.

Your welcome to message me and talk its the worst feeling in the world x

[wonderwoman24]

I understand this I used to be size 6/8 4 children later and I am a size 12 and have really struggled with my post birth look. I have started Intermittant Fasting, mainly because I stopped eating when my partner left and realised I was losing weight much quicker buy possibly not healthy so doing it safely now. It has helped me a lot as I was in size 14. I’m not technically overweight but I’m not happy so going to keep going I have a 17 month old and 6 month old. What I will say is it can take the body a while to heal after birth so just find what works for you and give your body time. I don’t expect to be a size 6 anymore but would love to get back to a size 10.

[wonderwoman24]

I totally understand this. My ex of almost 13 years told me at Christmas he didn’t love me anymore. I have gone through so many emotions ups and downs so far. Deep down I know if he was to say this has all been a terrible mistake I would take him back in a heartbeat – but this is just me being hopeful and I know that. We are still living together and I think he is “trying” but he’s not really trying I think it really is over. The hardest part for me is that no one knows and I feel like I am frozen in life and everyone’s else is moving on but I can’t move on. The biggest pain is not that he has split up with me but that I have lost my best friend and I don’t know how to get past that. He was the only one I spoke to so much and told everything too and now I have that gap and void in my life. All I can say is just keep reminding yourself you will come out the otherside of this eventually…somehow. your welcome to message me anytime if that helps, I have found been able to speak to others and also writing down my feelings has helped me get through each day. I am nowhere near ok yet, but got to keep going for the kids sake.

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