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    TalesofAMixedUpMama
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    Thank you Belsey and thanks also to those who messaged me privately x

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    TalesofAMixedUpMama
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    Hello all,

    I found out I was pregnant after splitting up with my ex and he had moved abroad. So from the very beginning I knew I was doing this alone. It was daunting at times and I was upset that I wasn’t going to appointments or making announcements with a partner, but I tried hard to focus on how life would be with a baby in my arms and pictured me and my child in a happy future.

    My beautiful baby is now a 12yo young lady and I am as in love with her now, as I was the day she was placed in my arms. I won’t lie, it’s not all been easy. But what I have learned over the years, is that you’ll have moments of doubt, guilt & feeling lonely whether you’re single or in a relationship. I’ve not met a parent who doesn’t have those very normal feelings.

    But, it’s also an amazing experience. As you go along, you’ll find a routine and lifestyle that suits you and your child and the tears and worries will be outweighed by all the fun moments along the way. Spend your pregnancy finding out what’s available locally for new parents and researching any financial help you’re entitled to. One of my biggest anxieties was how I’d be affected financially, how maternity leave would work etc.. having it all worked out before the baby came was a great help.

    I’m not painting this as completely fine, but you will find strength you didn’t know existed. I’ve been through homelessness, bereavement and serious debt having been ripped off by a family member and yet somehow, I’ve managed to raise a child throughout it all and I wouldn’t change her for a second. I’ve made amazing parent friends along the way, some as couples, some single.

    Good luck and please feel free to message me if you find yourself up late at night with worries and questions.

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