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26 April 2021 at 7:38 pm #53398
This is a rented property, I almost put her on the tenancy agreement but I feel like at the time that’s what she wanted to take the house away from me. She said, “I will only come home if I am the tenancy agreement”.
I have applied for court today, I have done my mediation but she has refused hers. The past 3 weeks I have tried non-stop to message her brother (daily) for some form of contact with my children and it’s always refused, to the point where I do come off as desperate and annoyed on some messages, they are my children too so it’s hard.
The children will live with the mother, I have no issues with that at all – She just wants something in place to ensure I return them home. The woman quite frankly scares me with her personality and maybe lies she will come up with, she purposely strings these situations out to hurt me and to be fair it hurts the children too (One is 4 years old).
I just hope that the courts will grant Thursday and Friday’s and then the following weekend overnight stays… She has disputed the Thursday and Friday due to our daughter starting school but I really don’t see it as an issue.
I have the tough choice to agree with all her terms which will be every other weekend and then 2-3 months down the line go through the court system again to gain those additional days, the thought of seeing my daughter and son 4 times a month really is not nice.21 April 2021 at 12:51 pm #53170
If he’s controlling and manipulative, call the Police if you have evidence… It is a crime and they are very hot on it right now.
Book yourself into a mediator and invite him and then go through the courts, right now you have nothing to lose and if you want your son back in your care then it will be a long fight but you can do it.
The fact you say he’s manipulative and controlling will be seen by the judges and that’s not healthy for any child.21 April 2021 at 12:46 pm #53169
There are veeeeeeeeeeeeery few children that have been affected by COVID, just take it easy and know your daughter will be fine 🙂21 April 2021 at 12:19 pm #53168
Thank you Leader!
I will try for the Thursday and Friday overnights and if she disagree’s I will just take it on the chin, my daughter’s school that has been applied for is around 500m away from my home, whether she continues to apply for that one I don’t know.
At this stage I have no say in the matter as she is playing all the shots.
I know deep down my daughter and son would love to see me every week and it’s sad that ex-partners try and stop what they’d want for their own benefits.20 April 2021 at 8:06 pm #53116
My partner of 12 years left me two weeks ago and she did the same tactics, I was not allowed to speak to my family for years and they didn’t even know we had another son.
I’d avoid this relationship, it’s good you have empathy, it’s a trait we should all have but sometimes it can blind you.
I would suggest researching narcissism, it might give you some insight if your partner is the same. If he does tick all the boxes you should run a mile as it never gets better.
No one should be forced to not speak to their own family, if he does not like them he does not have to speak to them and he cannot make those decisions for you.20 April 2021 at 8:02 pm #53115
Fingers crossed we can resolve on the first hearing as I miss the kids, not even a phone call for two weeks.
5-6 weeks does not seem too bad and hopefully they’re not too backlogged here in the Midlands.
The issue I have is I want Thursday and Friday and the next weekend Saturday and Sunday overnights. I know she will disagree on this and I will be left with every other weekend.
I just want to see the kids at the end of the day, I have messages to prove what she has agreed on and what she hasn’t and she just wants the order in place so that I return them.
Does she have the power to string it out longer on purpose or can the judge shut it down in the first hearing based on what she wanted? Also I’m guessing they can put in an interim order to at least have some contact?
My poor 4 year old daughter obviously misses me and it breaks me to know she hasn’t spoken to be in such a long time, she’s a clever girl and I really hate to know what they’re telling her20 April 2021 at 12:12 pm #53097
Thank you for your reply!
8-9 months!? Really? In the past (2018) it took around 3 months start to finish and we finalised at the first hearing.