Hi sorry to hear what you are going through, my second husband was an alcoholic I never saw signs til a few years later he was a great dad to our 2 young children and also he was like a dad to my 2 young children from a previous marriage he was my rock at that time in my life I loved him so much I chose him over my family my parents didn’t like him because he was from a different culture than there’s and different religion.we moved away and tried to make a life for our family hah another child together and things were ok he was very hands on with the kids .I noticed he started staying out late coming home drunk getting into fights he was self destructing fast then I found empty vodka bottles in the cupboard and it clicked he was a functional alcoholic to be honest all the signs were there for a while I had 4 young children to take care of so I made him leave I couldn’t believe how he had changed from loving doting dad although he was emotionally abusive to me the kids were his life .he just went down hill after that really messed up he wanted to see his kids but I said no I didn’t trust him anymore it was like he was a different person sorry for such a long reply kids come first if you go to meet your partner who are you doing it for ? It sounds like you are doing ok for now with your daughter She is lucky to have a caring mum like you take care of your self first when you do that it will get easier and you will see things more clearly sometimes in life we have to climb that hill and when we get to the top we feel lighter and can breath again your partner is on his own journey right now and if he sorts himself out then great in the meantime u have to carry on living your life hopefully u have some support around u and family close by x
