[Liljax]

Hi thank you for your reply, I’m so sorry your going through this too. Why is he threatening that you will have to give up your income? Hope your little ones are ok.

I’m not great,  I keep trying to have an adult amicable conversation with him to sort out selling the joint house, CM etc so all of his mental games, coming and going will stop but he is unpleasant, abusive and his behaviour is jekyll and Hyde. I can’t keep living like this much longer. It feels as though he wants me as his safety net and is controlling me via the house and finances.

 

[Liljax]

Thank you all for your advice and support it is really helpful.

I think the biggest thing I’m struggling with at the moment is my head and all my emotions.(I feel like I’m drowning and unable to catch a breath)  I’m trying to be the best i can for my DS and keep going. I’m just extremely exhausted and mentally overwhelmed.

I feel stuck… im mum 24/7 and trying to keep afloat and do my best stuck in 4walls and I’m really lonely. While he is off doing what he wants when he wants with whoever he wants.

I’m struggling to see things getting better, easier ,improving at the moment.

[Liljax]

Yes we have a verbal agreement discussed with Co parenting,  I expressed our child would have to be eased into all the changes and not thrown into it with the attitude of ‘he will have to get use to it’ (my ex partners words)

He has verbaly said he wants to do any child maintenance privately not through CMS I don’t know what is best to help support our child.

I’m finding it all really horrible and difficult and my ex partners attitude and nastiness is making it all alot harder.

 

[Liljax]

Thank you so much for responding to me. It does give me some hope and light at the end of all this.

I feel like I’m drowning in fear and overwhelming emotions at the moment and unable to see beyond this or ground myself with all the unknown.

My biggest fear at the moment is how I’m going to manage to find somewhere to live , and provide everything for my little one on a part time wage with no help or support from a family network if I’m in trouble.

 

[Liljax]

Thank you for your comments. It does help. There is also some comfort to know I’m not alone and others have come out the other side of this ok.

I don’t know what will happen with all the details yet. I’m just hoping I can find another place I can afford.

 

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