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21 August 2018 at 10:09 pm #14856
Ahh that seems very unfair! maybe try again and ask for the department that Tuga Amor suggested ? So does he not see his son either?19 August 2018 at 3:43 pm #14789
Gingey28 – there is a part we’re thwy can dispute about being the child’s father however they can then arrange a dna test
im sure I’ve read about it online!
These people who work self employed but still have a house, they clearly work and afford to do many things I think it’s then that you need to chase the child maintenance people and get any evidence you can to prove he has a house and is earning19 August 2018 at 3:32 pm #14788
🙌 thank you tugaAmor
this sounds very similar to my situation although I’ve not been told there called this so maybe this is the next step? I was told my case is under “ urgent reconsideration” for re calculation but as I’ve already provided some payslips and bank statement s I had from our new mortgage application so they are looking into the amount. It’s just a shame everything takes an age to sort out!19 August 2018 at 2:35 pm #14785
Bless him, that’s a great start though even a hour in his bed or maybe wait with him until his asleep in his bed. My son is 6 nearly 7 and is coming in my bed once a week as he tells me every night he misses me when I put him to bed so I try to comprimise.
I’m sure she realises it’s not your fault at all and is trying to shift her own blame.19 August 2018 at 10:17 am #14780
Honestly this is appalling! why do these parents not have a conscience about their poor children going with out it makes me feel so sad!
I think self employed people seem to be able to get away with all this much more – however the cms are aware of this and can usually look into extra things if you have any proof such as ex saying ‘he cant have kids as his working’ or you know were he works, or if they have a house and a mortgage for example its obvious they wouldn’t have that if they earn peanuts – provide all details to cms no matter how petty you may feel it is. My case will hopefully move to collect and pay soon but I have to wait probably 2 weeks for this at least but ultimately his going to have to pay as his p60’s show how much he earns.
Jimmyjay – can you not get free counselling via the school? or via early help? my son does as he was so upset to start with and kept crying at bedtime saying to me ‘mummy I worry that daddy pushed you and was nasty to you’ my daughter told my doctor how I hurt my knee ‘ daddy pulled mummy off the bed and hurt her knee’ my poor kids were seeing so much they needed help urgently, however since ive left they have both got much better and since they don’t witness it anymore they are much happier and now enjoy seeing their dad. It makes me mad that after all my ex has done to hurt me and upset his caused our children he still thinks its ok not to pay maintenance.
One thing I will say is all of our children will grow up loving us and see that we did our very best by them, we should be proud to be the good parents we are.16 August 2018 at 8:25 pm #14680
i left an abusive relationship also, I’m far from you in Kent but feel free to add me and message me. I’ve got some amazing friends I’m very lucky but it’s so very isolating when you become a single parent. All that keeps me going are my kids and my faith that things will get better.
id like to know if there are any local groups for single parents?16 August 2018 at 8:16 pm #14679
Oh it’s so unfair – I can’t understand how they can just ignore things. Hope you have more luck with the review in January – I guess the first year is the only year they can play havoc with money unless they loose thier job!16 August 2018 at 7:30 pm #14667
did you give cms anything to support the fact she earns more? I’ve supplied them with evidence he earns more. Do you know if the paying parents outgoings are taken into consideration ? I hate the fact it seems to give them so much time to do anything and then they take thier time too