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    jimmyjay
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    Hiya  Anonymous

    I have a child arrangements order which states mum has kids every other weekend,restcof the time kids will live with there father.

    Seems your always coming to my rescue ,much appreciated.

    #15754 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hi Doc

    Always here for a chat.

    Yes it gets extremely lonely as I’ve been doing same for my kids.

    I was with my partner for 16 years when she decided to leave and left me with kids.

    She met someone else within 4 months knowing were all at home heartbroken. 1 year on and me and kids have our routine and things are slowly on the mend. Everyone say time a great healer and will make you a stronger person but it doesn’t feel like it.

    So totally understand your pain and loneliness. Stay strong for the kids your doing a fantastic job.

    #15338 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hiya LadyL

    Thanks for your help, Im getting really fed up with her.Now she has her own place the court agreement states she now has them Friday till Monday but unfortunately she has said that she has a permanent job on a Friday night  and cant have the kids, I ve made allowance as i know things change and said she can have them from Saturday till Tuesday to make up for the Friday .

    Then i find out she was actually out on lash with her friends  ???? All i want is her to be honest with me.

    She spends more time with our daughter then our son and  he ask me why its always my daughter.

    Confronted  Ex  she said cant take both kids out at same time as they want  to do different  things. Yes i appreciate there is 6 year age gap but it was never an issue before ????.

    #15314 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hiya

    1. I’m also a single parent to 2 kids happy to chat anytime.Yep it gets lonely but at least you have your kids and expect your doing a fantastic job.
    #15304 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hiya Anonymous

    When it’s my weekends to have kids she intrudes by saying things like

    “Auntie Jane at nans (where she is living at the moment ) so kids want to go round instead of asking me first and I can’t say no because I become the horrible dad for not allowing them.

    Telling kids that they are going to live with her even though court order saying kids live with me which is confusing them.

    Sunday  when its her weekend I say I would like kids back by 7 as they have school tomorrow and need  bath etc .She says I’ll bring them back when I ready which normally ends up 9-9.30.

    Telling me don’t care what was agreed I see the kids when I want.

    Never bloody ending.Rant over lol

     

    #14819 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Craved for I mean 😂😂

    #14818 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hi all

    I joined a few days ago and found out that there are some truly amazing parents on here who have helped me with answer which I have graved for and now feel in contol.

    Thank you all much appreciated.

    #14782 Report

    jimmyjay
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    What I seem to do now is make myself busy when I’m alone to stop thinking about her.

    Believe it or not housework is a god send.Dont think the place has ever looked so tidy until kids come home lol.

    #14781 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hiya Laura

    He had draw and tell at school but wasn’t really helping him.

    My son who is 8 still sleeps in my bed every time I get up to use the toilet he thinks I’m going to leave him and he holds my hand in bet.

    I’ve tried to get him back to his own bed but he says “Daddy I can’t make you proud of me because I’m scared to sleep in my own bed “Told him I will always be proud of him no matter what he does in life “.

    Told my son we need to start getting you back in your own bed even if it’s only for an hour and will take it dy by day bless him.

    Told the ex this but she accused me  of playing mind games.

    Thank you for your help will look into early help contact.

    #14761 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Forgot to mention we were together for 17 years.

    #14760 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hi Gemsy

    I always  thought me and my partner would get old together and have our grandchildren constantly around our house when they were old enough.

    To me that was all I ever wanted in life. Unfortunately she moved to her parents house saying that I’ve done nothing wrong it’s her who has changed and walked out  leaving me with our two children.

    She acts like a 20 year old reliving her youth without a care in the world.She was a fantastic person but now is cold and heartless.

    I have custody of the children but due  to the court agreement I see her most days .I  can’t  seem to let go even though it’s been years and a half. Just want to cuddle  her but I know it’s not me she wants anymore.

    I totally understand what your going through and something I think what did I do to deserve all this pain and upset.

    #14759 Report

    jimmyjay
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    All I wanted was for her to help pay towards my son counselling ( maybe  20 quid )which she caused  by walking out yet She mocked me but has money to go out with friends to the pub.

    I ended up contacting the CMS now she can’t understand why I grassed her up.

    Surly our kids should be her priority.

    Im totally frustrated why she has become so cold and heartless

    #14733 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hiya  littlemonkey

    Thanks for the information just want everything to be resolved.Dont want her having access to the house for the next 10 years coming and going when she feel like it.Not sure if I can stop her from coming in if her name still on the mortgage.

     

    #14677 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Solomum

    You have just made me pee myself with laughter  your comments about her and a mortgage you have made my night.

    thanks for your support much appreciated.

    #14673 Report

    jimmyjay
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    Hiya Lauraemil

    Personally i think they are bias to fathers as was Cafcass ,didn’t seem interested told them i had text from her stating im working tonight etc but all that was said  was they will review it in January.

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