[Yaz]

Please do not leave your home .your partner has obviously got mental health issues so if you leave what would become of your children? She says she doesn’t want them but that sounds like mental illness to me .at some point she will find some where if that is her choice . You will regret leaving so do not takweeke any advice from people telling you to leave .it’s your home and she’s more or less going out and enjoying herself at the weekend because she don’t want responsibility of looking after children.

[Yaz]

I suggest you go on council website and find an Ofsted registered childminder . Some Privatenursery open at ,,,,7.30 am and close at ,6.40,,,pm .long day for little one thou

[Yaz]

I have a great balance plus I get childcare help. I’ve reduced my hours and it was the best thing .I  am home in time for my child . I work from home once a week and am able to see my child off . So good luck whatever you do .we have one nanny and a child minder ! I was told you must have good childcare in place In order to work .I have no family to help so I have to pay out for childcare .

[Yaz]

Are you able to do an online food order so that you have food, nappies etc…

I would suggest ringing your GP as our practice have volunteers . Who are your neighbor s . Do you speak to them ?

[Yaz]

Do you work ? Are you reliant on this man for money ? Do you live together and how is the rent paid for ?

[Yaz]

Can you place an advert on nextdoor to see if there is someone local who can help you ? Can you do this tonight?

I. Am so sorry to hear that you are struggling.

Where about s do you live ?

[Yaz]

Good morning

 

Do you keep a diary of what happens ?

If not get one, I suggest that you keep evidence now that will help you get access to your little boy .am so sorry but just keep trying.there are lots of abusive people out there that includes women who can manipulate .so people use politeness as a form of weakness. I don’t know how many people over the years tried this tactic on me . It never made me  bitter but stronger and I have my own money and home so am independent .

Good luck 🤞🤞🤞

[Yaz]

Is he the father ? Personally I would refuse to leave until you can find somewhere . Honestly , I am so sad for you all. I do  hope you find somewhere soon    . Do you pay bills ?

[Yaz]

Recently I felt like and I never felt this way because of a text message . My one was off school sick so I couldn’t go to work and I was very tired and no energy to even to brush my teeth.

I found out my local college did beauty treatment s starting from £2 so I took time off to get my self made over and I felt so much better . All my Grey disappeared and I had a wonderful pedicure and massage at a fraction of the price .

So be kind to yourself and go and get a treat . Even if it’s taking annual leave !  I also got some free paint from the skip and painted my fences yellow and pink !!

 

[Yaz]

Sorry, yes I understand . I have a small mortgage so I had to go to work  .this employer is supportive and I wouldn’t get this support elsewhere. Of course I felt guilty because she should have gone to a child minder,/nanny rather than a nursery . I took the wrong advice and I struggled as it was not even near us

We have lots of time together in the holidays and the days I am not working. You will get more support if you are working . I have come to end of my career so I would find it hard to get a job that allows me to work from home and leave the office early to meet my child after school. I will be in the position to stop work when my child changes school if not before as I will be mortgage free.   My parents were immigrants so I was  use to seeing my parents go out to work come home and then do an evening job . Of course I like being with my daughter but I like to buy nice things and go on trips with my girl and you can’t do that if you are not working! Anyway enjoy every moment as they grow up so quickly.

[Yaz]

I don’t want to sound harsh as I know you love your child like everyone here.  I am a working mum and my child was at nursery from the age of 10 months . She made lots of friends and although I could just about manage on my own on my salary with  no one from my  family to help she was fine . My child is 7 years old and very sociable and outgoing !

I am working 21 hours and I pay a childminder and nanny when she’s at school if I can’t have annual leave . We get help with childcare because these people are Ofsted registered.

There are some people who don’t want to work for various reasons . I too had an amazing career where I traveled to exciting place .

I love working as I can afford extra nice things .I am proud to be a working mum and I am proud to be contributing to the economy !!

[Yaz]

There is no point talking to her because she’s already addicted to it . I have never taken drugs but have seen how their personal ity changes . Of course it brings mental issues . I would ignore her and start making her contribute to housekeeping.this is not going to go away overnight .her friends are probably supplying her but drugs are everywhere even in schools . Maybe she is bored that’s y she takes it or another reason. I don’t have any suggestions but all I can say is concentrate on yourself and your other children that need you.

[Yaz]

Am so sorry to hear that your daughter is a drug user .where does she get the money from ?  I don’t know what to say but our family had regular  drug users and afterwards the just stopped using drugs got a job and started studying and that was it .these individuals were aggressive, violent  , ran away , stole and had a completely different personality. Weed taking affects their mentality. You are wasting your time and energy and she will make you Il. So I suggest ignore her bedroom door off. Your home, your rules !

[Yaz]

I took over the property but it was sold to me as it was in husband name .I was earning enough to take over and get a mortgage so I suggest you start getting advice but I used a mortgage broker. You are asked to provide 3 months pay slips .

If you are not able to afford mortgage or you are not earning enough to get mortgage then it will be sold and you will have to find someone affordable. Normally it’s valued and we split it equally. You are not able to get mortgage if you are not working ,well this is what is I was told .

 

[Yaz]

It cost us £50 k to finally settle . I was able to take on mortgage but if I couldn’t the home would have been sold . If you can’t afford mortgage then you can’t stay in home and they suggest going to cheaper area .my husband wanted off the mortgage .he only  paid £200 a month which is peanuts in London and I maintain ed home and paid insurance etc… . Now it was sold and split 50 percent .it was all in husband name and we couldn’t be happier. I was able to put a downstairs loo.

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