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Can you check with the school to see what time she is leaving?

7.30-8pm is a long time to be unsure of where your child is or what she is doing.

Maybe speak to the Mum but make it clear that you are just concerned and do not want to argue.

 

 

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Hi Turtlebay14

Maybe approach the local council in the area that you will be studying in and explain your situation, if they are unable to provide accommodation, they may be able to refer you to associations or private landlords that can help.

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Hi Lonelyjane

 

I am sorry to hear about your situation and hope that things get better.

As you are joint tenants, you have equal rights regarding  the tenancy.

You should contact your Housing Officer as soon as possible and explain the situation, ask them to put a note on your account to confirm that you have no intention of terminating the tenancy or leaving the family home. Maybe put it in writing and ask them to keep on file.

You should then seek some advice and a solution.  If he wants to move out of the home, he can remove himself from the tenancy and the tenancy can be changed from joint to sole and remain in your name.  Your Housing Officer should be able to send you a form that you would both have to sign stating that he will leave and you remain at the address with the children .

You need to read the terms of your tenancy agreement to see if it’s possible for him to terminate the tenancy for both of you, if so you may have to apply to a court to have an order put in place so that you and the children can remain at the address.

Definitely seek further advice through here, citizens advice bureau etc.

 

Please try not to worry, no court or council is keen to put families out of their homes without good reason.

I hope everything is sorted out amicably

 

 

 

 

 

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Hi Andy

How old is your daughter?

I found just talking to my daughter and making her understand why what she was saying or doing may not be nice or how it might make others feel. I used examples of situations where she wasn’t treated very nicely and asked her how it made her feel and if she believed it was ok for someone else to feel the same because of her words or actions.

Remind her of her manners and to be respectful when you catch her being rude to others.

When something happens to her and she feels it’s really bad, explain that she may feel like that now but things change and will get better, maybe speak about solutions or agree a different way to cope with the problem if it arises again.

She needs to understand that her feelings are important but issues can be resolved.

Do not tell her that she’s like her mother as it will only cause conflict.

I hope that you manage to sort this little problem out.

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Hi solomotherandproud

I am in a similar situation and totally understand how you feel.

Ultimately I would like my child to be able to tell me how their day was and if something was wrong before I left them in a nursery.

What about a hone based job?  I worked full time during the lockdown just before my daughter’s 1st Birthday and my contract ended a couple of months ago. My Mother would pop in to help, but my daughter just wanted me all the time so it was a bit manic.  In hindsight I’d probably do it again but less hours.

I spoke with UC the other day and the lady mentioned that they would pay up to 85% of an Ofsted childminders fee, even if the care took place in your home. Therefore you can oversee the childcare and work too.

I’ve not looked into it, but seems a bit less scary if you have concerns x

 

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Hi Londonmumtoone

I am sorry to hear about your predicament, it sounds very stressful.

Approach the Housing Department at your local council and explain the situation, they will be able to assess your needs and see if they are able to assist you with finding suitable housing for you and your son, or advise you on the steps you need to take to make you eligible.

Good luck, I hope that you manage to find somewhere suitable.

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