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15 March 2021 at 2:40 pm #51306
As far as im aware the school should be only releasing a child to one of the named on their list ( i believe its 3). Im guessing that they are allowing others to be added to that list by mum or dad but could in theory end up with a list as long as your arm and yet no one is vetting these people. No way. Its time for a chat with the head methinks. If names can be added willynilly then it could end up with something crazy like 40 people on the list and its possible you wouldnt know these people from Adam. Talk to the school head (head only ,NOT reception). Talk with your ex. Can understand you being concerned and you need to find a way that addresses those concerns.14 March 2021 at 8:56 pm #51267
Understand completely. I have a daughter going through this. Its very hard trying to understand. Shes actually at the stage where she barely leaves the house and certainly wont attend school so i know how hard it can be ( 13 when it started,14 now) . I cant offer more than to say keep loving him,keep showing him that hes loved. I get to speak to CAHMS and while my daughter wont engage with them they do give me advice which i carry out. Got the help through my GP who suggested CAHMS.14 March 2021 at 7:41 pm #51259
Hey great post !
I was so happy Friday. My boy was at school and his class made Mothers day cards and as he doesnt have a mum he made one for me! Im his dad but it was so fantastic to receive a Mothers day card ! (if you see what i mean ). Ive never had a Mothers day card before. Looking forward to next year! Maybe i shall receive a bunch of flowers !14 March 2021 at 6:15 pm #51250
Well you sound like your doing everything that you can and you should be proud of that. Your right of course,you cant help the way your brain works. My brain works around the fact that as a male im hardwired to watch football,drink beer,have some mates round but ive had to adapt. Have the children now and i need to relearn everything ! Im like this bloke that i wouldnt have recognized 2 years ago ! Inside though, regardless of the problems ive learnt to rather like this bloke. Hes alright. Bit boring maybe but hey,hes ok.14 March 2021 at 5:35 pm #51246
Its nice of your GP to call you every now and again ! Wow where did you find a doctor like that? Must be private . Glad you got a referral and hopefully things turn out well. I know what you mean about waking up early to prepare for moods. I do that. Get up earlier,coffee,prepare. Its like being in a bloody war. Hopefully he doesnt hurt you and i hope things get better for you soon. It cant be easy on your own.14 March 2021 at 4:54 pm #51242
Sorry to hear of your problems it must be so hard for you. I dont have exactly the same issue but similar. Just a lack of respect from son to father. Long story which i wont bore you with. I have some trouble sleeping and sometimes wake up thinking how badly im being a father to him and sometimes ive got to sit my own self down,have a coffee and tell myself that im doing the best i can and will go on doing so. Id never let him down but sometimes ive felt like just walking away. I wouldnt of course but there have been moments. Your right about Social Services ,they usually just pay lip service to this kind of problem. Your tired as your poor head is constantly thinking. Constantly on alert. Constantly worried about the next abusive attack. Constantly worried that there is only you to deal with these issues. Please try your best not to feel too down and remember your doing so well regardless of how often you have bad days. Keep going. Youve got this far. Sorry i cant be more help. Take care x13 March 2021 at 10:57 pm #51222
Welcome to the site. This site is nice and ive always found everyone to be so engaging and polite. Good luck.13 March 2021 at 10:49 pm #51220
We all feel this way when we away from our kids. Its a natural feeling. Its a good thing. A protective thing. We cant help it. We are the parents. I know im not going out again. Or at least not without them coming along too. xx13 March 2021 at 9:59 pm #51214
Perfectly normal feeling. My mate came round last weekend to look after my 2 boys while i popped out to see a couple of friends at the pub. Got to say that i hated it and couldnt wait to get home ! I wont be doing that again . As a dad ive learnt to get the football indoors ( not the pub) and the beer indoors too.
Take care13 March 2021 at 8:20 pm #51208
Your so right. Being a single parent can be both hard and isolating. It helps to have family support around you (i dont). Sometimes i feel down and then sometimes im on a high due to me managing to cope with a 14, 8 and 5 year old on my own. As a bloke it doesnt come naturally either but hey we do what we have to do. There are times when ive laughed,times when ive cried , times when ive just thanked the Lord that i have the strength to keep going and keep working and remember why i do this. Its adult conversation thats missed the most though. Just the chance for a laugh and joke and stuff. My mate comes around about every 2 weeks and ive found that when we start chatting about football,music etc i just cant shut up ! It makes such a change to Cbeebies, Fortnite,Roblox, making dinners,snacks,washing school stuff, checking PE kit etc. I wouldnt have it any other way though.
Take care13 March 2021 at 6:41 pm #51204
Just came here to say thats brilliant advice to the original poster.13 March 2021 at 6:41 pm #51203
Just came here to say thats brilliant advice to the original poster.11 March 2021 at 9:19 pm #51111
It doesnt sound boring or needy. It sounds just fine. There are so many variables involved that there is no perfect answer. To be honest as im in the “older” category whilst ive not given up im certainly aware that everyone wants something slightly different. Over the years it has changed from needing dating/partner to needing companionship. Guess there’s a difference.11 March 2021 at 8:03 pm #51105
You sound really down and im so sorry to hear of your situation. That must be so hard ! You also sound like you tried very hard to make things right or at least to do things the right way. Maybe you could reach out to someone who could help? A GP ? It not for anyone to tell you how to do things but if your having those dark thoughts then your not in a good place right now. PM me if you wanna chat i dunno what else to say. Take care ….Mark11 March 2021 at 2:48 pm #51093
Welcome to the site. I love this site and have had much help over the last year . People can be very friendly and are quite likely to be in the same or similar situation to your own. Its great for that. They can always offer advice or at the very least point you in the right direction should you need it. Hope you find some friends along the way. Enjoy !