[GemRen]

Hi I would contact women’s aid and other domestic abuse services for help and support with this too. Very often abusers see contesting matters and doing what they can to hold up the court proceedings as a way to hold on to that final shred of control. Mental health issues don’t help I know but mental health is not an excuse for domestic abuse. Please look into speaking to someone trained in this so you don’t get mislead and manipulated as can happen in these instances and do all SS ask of you

[GemRen]

Hi if your in social / council / housing association housing then they will usually give the house to the main carer of the child but your best talking to the landlord about it all

[GemRen]

Hi I’m new here and came across your post. If I were you I would keep the house why does he want it so bad of he’s only going to be a single person? You have your son to take care of and that is your little ones home so his security if being in a house he is used to if far more important than your exes desire to buy you out and have it himself. He is being rather selfish he should be thinking of making this as easy as possible on your little one instead of prioritizing his own needs and wants. He is after all an adult he ought to stand on his own two feet or go back to his parents til he can afford somewhere else instead of expecting your child to be uprooted and loose the home he is used to. I suspect he is manipulating you emotionally and threatening to commit suicide in order to coerce you into agreeing to him having the house is wrong. Also the fact he wants the freedom to see other people while you are supposed to be engaging in marriage counselling says it all. It looks like he has already made his mind up he wants someone else all he’s doing now is trying to keep the house so he’s got somewhere to move the next candidate into. Sorry but he sounds incredibly selfish and immature to be expected all of this from you and is being very manipulative with you and your emotions. I’d tell him you have the baby you need the house as a single man he can find another place. I’m sure if this went into the divorce courts the courts would put the needs of your little one over the immature wants of a single man who won’t have the child. I hope you find the strength to keep what’s rightfully yours and your little ones. If he wants to go fair enough let him but he must be prepared to grow a set and man up and make the normal sacrifices loving father’s have to in these circumstances and let the child and mother take the family home and he stand on his own two feet and move out

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