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    FurBag36
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    @Gertrude Of course it’s going to be hostile.

    And yes, standard response about sperm! You’re missing the point entirely. Thank you for commenting on a situation you clearly haven’t been in.

    #115664

    FurBag36
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    @Montana2019 You have absolutely hit the nail on the head!

    The entire system does encourage and facilitate his continued abuse. And they are ignoring it as you say!

    I’m really not ok but I am absolutely powerless to stop it.

    He has plenty of money to throw at this and it’s just awful. No one is listening to me.

    And @Gertrude Yes, it is 2023 and YES I am absolutely saying I am sick of hearing about Dad’s rights! And it absolutely matters that I grew her and gave birth to her. It matters that I am the one who comforts her when she falls. I am the one who praises her when she’s done well. I am the one who is present every single day.

    Yes, he pays because I went to the CSA because he previously refused to pay! And even now, pays under or not at all. He was not present and thinks he can now pop up!

    I am sorry but no, he should not have rights in that situation!!

    And when there has been domestic abuse towards her and myself, no…absolutely NOT, should he have parental rights! It is disgusting you think otherwise….in 2023!!!!!!

    #108848

    FurBag36
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    Big celebrations. I hope all went well.

    #108812

    FurBag36
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    @dannii009

    I hope I am in a happy space like you one day. And very well done for getting through.

    #108811

    FurBag36
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    I hope you’re right.

    I was working overtime as I need every Penny possible. Hope you did too.

    #108807

    FurBag36
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    @Array88

    I really feel for you but please know that you are certainly NOT trapped!!

    If you want to instigate a divorce then all the forms are on the .Gov website. They take you through step by step.

    One aspect of the divorce is the financial settlement and how much you will both get.

    How long have you been married?

    Check your mortgage deeds on whether you are Tenants in Common or not and how much the split is upon sale of the house. If you don’t know where your deeds are, contact your bank/building society.

    The .Gov website also has pages on what benefits you may be entitled to going forward if you don’t have many hours.

    It seems daunting and isolating and lonely but I promise, you will get through it if you decide to leave ok.

     

     

    #108806

    FurBag36
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    @Remymartin I really do feel for you. It’s only time which heals. I hate that phrase so much but it is all we have.

    I send you all my thoughts. You will both come out of this. It’s just a very big hill. Xx

    #108805

    FurBag36
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    Is it hard to stay positive when you’re bogged down in a bubble but it is important to try and stay positive.

    #108799

    FurBag36
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    It is very sad indeed to hear how people are struggling. I am in the same boat. I have so much going on that I can not even be bothered to type it out.

    I’m exhausted of feeling exhausted! It’s horrible.

    I snapped at my daughter earlier and my gosh, I went into my room sat in my bed and cried my heart out. (Without her hearing).

    For a moment I thought, “god f*** my s****y life”!!

    But things go up as they come down. I’m literally living from day to day at the moment. Well, not really living. Existing.

    But if anyone is feeling truly down, please do always reach out as you have done. And I hope things get better.

    #108797

    FurBag36
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    Most welcome mate.

    #108796

    FurBag36
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    Oh sweetie. You most definitely will find love again!!! It can feel like you will not. However, we only really ever attract someone healthy and who is good for us when we are not looking.

    It is a very tough decision and you will probably go back and forth. It is hard to leave. It will be difficult but I promise you, you WILL come out the other side standing tall. Xx

    #108792

    FurBag36
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    @Ellsbells1995

    Morning,

    That is a predicament. I had a friend who was in exactly the same position a fair few years ago.

    I was in the same position. I met someone who appeared to be Mr. Wonderful and my gosh, his abuse was horrendous.

    I did leave him at first during the pregnancy but then made the very silly decision to go back. It then got worse.

    I wish I hadn’t gone back. We are split now. Only you can make that decision mate but let me tell you now, although it’ll be hard and scary and everything in between; you WILL be able to get through it if you do decide to leave.

    Do you have a good support network around you?

    With regards to continuing with the pregnancy, do you have any kind of gut feeling about what to do?

    #108791

    FurBag36
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    Morning Steve,

    In the eyes of the law, children are classed as children until 18. However, I believe both are now old enough if they don’t want to go. They can’t be forced.

    Should the Courts get involved, I’d imagine they would take the considerations of the children.

    Not sure if that helps mate.

    #108485

    FurBag36
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    Thank you Gingerbread.

    #108484

    FurBag36
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    Thank you.

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