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It’s shocking that this kind of behaviour is allowed in court of law, My ex is a nightmare to deal with he has anger issues and uses everything against me in court, he wasn’t bothered about the kids when he was having an affair for few years all of a sudden he now wants to bother with his kids and taking me to court, I don’t think no one actually understands how this effects kids in situations like this nothing is tick sheet, parents who are there for there kids who pick up the pieces shouldn’t be dragged to court either you step up and be a parent or you leave can’t be in and out when it suits you. I understand kids needs both parents but how do you deal with a narcissist parent.

[2022]

ex’s change when they have new partners etc and the law in this county doesn’t help parents who actually puts everything in to there kids emotionally and mentally and doing all the work they just fill out an court form and that’s it’s it’s 50/50 both parents have rights without having to think of the kids even when you bend over backwards to accommodate the ex in every way possible court doesn’t care it’s all about best interest of the kids I’m in this process and it’s the worst doesn’t matter if one parent hasn’t bothered all this time.

[2022]

The sad part is us parents who try to protect our kids goes against us because abusers will always get right regardless the law in this country is horrible it’s all paper tick sheet not about the emotional needs of the children involved. I’m going through this now and I’m actually really shocked as it’s just tick sheet

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I don’t think court understands the importance of mental health in children it’s easy to say 50/50 but when children have been through so much when parents separate it’s the last change they need to upheaval the kids and think kids will adapt. I’m sure we wouldn’t like to be moved from pillar to post constantly so why does it make it  okay for kids to do it and for someone else to decide on who your children stay with we gave birth to our children we know how they feel It’s easy to say 50/50 in reality it doesn’t work because kids start to show problems at a later age. Kids mental and emotional well being is at the highest right now due to covid as it then to in the mix parents separation a lot of changes.

 

im going through similar where my ex doesn’t see the children without his new gf and doesn’t communicate and isn’t available to have the kids 50/50’due to his work but is still taking me to court because he wants his new partner to take over the mum role and my kids are not ready they have expressed this several times to him his response my new gf is my world and she and she comes first to my 6 & 9 year old if they don’t talk to her he takes there iPads away and shouts at them. He already has 2wkends a month plus a weekday pick up even then they are not with him a third party looks after them he refuses his home address so no idea who or where my kids are but according to safeguarding that’s expectable so what’s the purpose taking them ? Will the court see how this is effecting the kids emotionally and mentally no it’s all about what’s on the paper not about the people involved if the judge saw how heartbroken the kids are it would be a complete different story.

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Hi Astra,

I am going through court as well my ex wants 50/50 however is not available due to his job can you please tell me your court experience as mines is next month, he already has 2 weekends a month and a pick up during the week but now wants his girlfriend to take more of a mum role where I am available around the clock. Any advice from anyone would be great. He refuses to spend any 121 time with the kids and they are struggling with this if they don’t speak ti the gf he takes there iPads away only form of entertainment at his place. Just have no idea what else I can.

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