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    Concerned101
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    The divorce process is meant to be non fault.  The spit will mostly depend upon the  ongoing ability of each party to support themselves.  So if your pardners income goes down it will effect you.  Mine claimed that the recovery from alcohol was so difficult that they got the majority of our assets, even though I support and care for our children.  And then claimed the opposite in the family court.

    The only way to solve an abusive relationship is to escape.  It wont be easy or pleasant but it is worth it.   Good luck

    #69842 Report

    Concerned101
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    If you do this, then you will likely be in trouble when you partner takes you to court.

    My ex had supervised visits for a while after being attested for drink driving at school. Social services later concluded that they could have unsupervised contact.

    Stopping contact could be viewed as you committing parental alienation, which would be seriously held against you.

    The courts will go to great lengths to promote contact with both parents.

    #69428 Report

    Concerned101
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    Its not about you and what you want.  Its about what is right for the children.

    There is no reason why a Mother (or a Farther) should just expect to have more than 50% especially if the children wish for equal time with both parents.  There maybe very good and valid reasons as to why a 50:50 is not valid, but just because you want more is not one of them.

    If you appear to be unreasonable you will only push your daughter away.

    #67317 Report

    Concerned101
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    Depends upon lots of factors- Are you married and for how long, how  much  you both earn and what is the split in the childcare for each of you?

    With me things were very amicable until lawyers become involved and then everything changed. Mediation is much better, but often if both parties could communicate and compromise people wouldn’t get divorced.

    #63285 Report

    Concerned101
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    Thank you

    #63070 Report

    Concerned101
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    Thanks, not getting a lot of support from the social worker, apart from the stock phrase that ‘I must use my parental responsibility to ensure there safely’.

    She is trying her best to invent a situation where she doesn’t have to do what she has agreed to and is required to do.

    She now has refused her contact because I wouldn’t also use the breathalyser.  Unfortunately there is a young child that I have to explain the situation to in a way that they can understand and without me painting her in a bad way.

    #56284 Report

    Concerned101
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    Unfortunately the lies that she has been spinning have court up with her, and that may have put some local people off. During our marriage she isolated me from my friends and family so there isn’t any options there.

    She isn’t speaking to her own family and they are not local.

    She has made malicious accusations about me, so I’m not prepared to be with her without a chaperone.

    She has a new partner, but I know nothing about him or his family.  I have a feeling that she will want to use them, but I’m not reassured that they will be objective.

    Am I right to insist that the person supervising is somebody that I know and can trust?

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