[cinnamon]

Hey, I feel your pain, I am going through this completely alone too. And it is a scary place to find yourself at. I am not sure how to advice you, what works for me is a bit of distraction and planning, but other than that I am going though some roll coaster of emotions. If you need a chat, please message me anytime.

[cinnamon]

ouch I am really sorry to hear that. A break up is difficult enough in normal circumstances, let alone being pregnant and leaving you for another woman, so selfish and no regards for anyone else, but himself. I am going through a similar thing just now, we not even a week separated and he is already on sites seeking for women, living his best life. I am absolutely disgusted and disappointed and hurt and terrified to face this journey all alone. But what I can share here what I learned from the past couple of days and it might not be much is that things will get better, and there is always a way to get through difficult times. It will be him coming back trying to get a place back in your life, once you start doing better without him and get your glow back and the excitement of the new woman wears off. You are far stronger than you think you are, and you keep choosing you and what is the best for you, you need to be strong for your baby as well and focus on building a future for you and that very special little person, I am not sure what I am going to do either as I am private renting a one bedroom flat, which is too small, we were planning to move together to his place, but that’s now fell through (sigh).

I hope everything will work out for you just fine, you are going to be the best mum ever to your baba.

[cinnamon]

Thank you both for your comments, it is really helpful reading it, as I am too pre-occupied with my own thoughts and no matter how hard I try to distract the  overwhelming thoughts are coming at me so strong, I guess with all the emotions and thinking of all the if’s that could actually go wrong, from little details as to how will I manage to get my shoes on once I am in my third trimester, will I manage to drive myself to hospital etc lol to bigger things as money struggles, health issues, postnatal depression, returning to work and not having childcare. I think I am just freaking out as the reality of this just hit me that he is seriously gone this time and I am left with the consequences, can he really be just gone like that and have no responsibility toward his baby. I think somehow I just need to get stronger and develop better coping skills and start creating a brighter future for us.

I am really glad you both managing well and enjoying being a single parent, it gives me so much hope for the future, and having that little person around that I always wished for.

[Author]

Posts