[plogermans]

Hi,

I’ve had a similar dream all my life, win the lottery (fat chance) and buy a plot for self build with land around it. I’m 67 now lol so its a bit late ! At least i have a smallish garden to sit in on summer days, nothing growing but weeds tho. You must have your work  cut out with 2 boys with disabilities. Why do some dads shirk their responsibilities and not help, have they no conscience ! Anyway I hope you find some support from Gingerbread and keep dreaming of better times.

[plogermans]

Hey,

Don’t be too hard on yourself, as you’ve parented 2 children alone for 8/10 years that alone is a great achievement. I think many single parents feel they’ve let their children down sometimes, i still do now and again and my two are adults now. Being in temporary accommodation cannot be easy and must make you feel less secure. Many people don’t know their neighbours these days and if they’re couples you can feel the odd one out as a single parent, i did especially as a single dad. I also think many single parents will have felt depressed and anxious at times so you’re not alone now. Sorry to hear you have ptsd and i hope the bi-polar assessment is negative but if not i believe the medication keeps it under control these days. It is a lot on your shoulders without the support of a partner or family. It is very difficult with no easy solution but stay as strong as you can for your children as they love you and you are as precious to them as they are to you. Anytime you want to chat i’m here to listen.

Take care,

David

[plogermans]

Hi Daisy,

Sorry to hear your relationship didn’t work out. The Website  Returning to the UK GOV.UK  may be of some help to you. I can understand your nervousness about coming back, especially with your son being so young. I wish you good luck.

David

[plogermans]

Hi,

You’ll be ok, everyone feels this way at times especially as a new single parent. It is hard being the only one to have to do everything that is easier when shared with a partner (usually) but you’ll cope. It can be easy to take it out on your children when stressed so take deep breaths and think how worse it could be, say if you only got to see your children for a couple of days every two weeks. Good luck with everything.

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