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    MummyP87
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    Thank you Flynny2 ❤️ I can’t wait to start counselling. I did it when I suffered post natal depression and it really helped so hopefully it will help now. It’s so hard dealing with someone with his type of personality. One minute he’s nice and civil then the next he is pure evil! I’m exhausted from it all xx

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    MummyP87
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    It’s just so unfair 😢 I feel I need this help just to reassure me i’m not the one with the issues and for a way to cope with the anxiety that he causes. I’m back at work this week for the first time in months as i’ve been furloughed. I asked him to drop the kids off rather than me pick them up after a long 12 hour shift, he kicked off and threatened to not bring them back at all because thats not me doing ‘50/50’ share of parenting. I just cannot deal with this mental torture anymore, how do I put up with that for the next 16 years…?

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    MummyP87
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    Thanks Minestrone, I have reached out for therapy. I have an appointment on the 6th april ❤️

    Hi Katherine,

    thank you for your kind words. Everything you have said is so true and realy relates to my situation. He does have major issues but unfortunately he isnt willing to accept them and seek help. I on the otherhand, although I am not crazy, have reached out for help. I want to be the best parent I can be and teach my children how to treat people properly and how they should be treated to. I will never let him back into my life other than to be a father to my children.

    thanks again xx

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    MummyP87
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    Thank you ❤️ I will try not to worry xx

    #51623 Report

    MummyP87
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    Thank you mstime ❤️ You are right the people who know me know the truth and who I really am and the type of Mother I am. It has really hurt me being accused of abuse but I know deep down if he was to try for custody he would really struggle. I am still terrified though because he is a very nasty person with words and the things he is capable of doing.

    Thank you for your kind words ❤️

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    MummyP87
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    No need to apologise Gummibear123. You aren’t far off thr mark at all..!! He always left me with the kids while we werr together, it was like single parenting but with a spectator. He’d rather go on a bender with his mates or sometimes alone than spend time with his kids. He only steps up when we are apart as he has no choice, sad really..!! But no he pays no maintenance, apparently we have the children 50/50. He actually has them 2-3 nightd across 3 days and 2 of those days the kids are in nursery all day from 7.30-5.30pm.. I have them 4 nights sometimes more and all day too. It’s a struggle just to get him to pay towards nursery let alone any other help from him so I dont bother. And he is the type that has made all his family n friends think i’m the villain. When we were together I asked a few times fot help from his family but they are all that scarred of hid nasty ways nobody helped and tbh some members of his family are just as horrible as he is and made me feel like I was never good enough. I totally agrer though, if I was that abusive and crazy then why would he leave his children in my care..? The same children that want to be attached to me 24/7, the same children that hide and scream because they dont want to go to their Dads house on a weekend. That spend the first 24 hours with him crying to come home to me..?? Its crazy..!! I have made a councillor appointment to speak to someone about the stress and anxiett him and his family cause me. I need to get back to a better place. Happy Mum happy babys. ❤️❤️

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    MummyP87
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    Thank you!

    I’ve self referred myself to my local talking shop, I used then when I suffered with post natal depressionso hopefully that will help. I’ve also asked him to email for contact but doubt he will, as i’d read that thats a good way to document things for future reference.

    From your experience does it get worse before better..? Are these horrible accusations because they are bitter and have nothing else they can do to hurt you..? I just don’t get how someone can be so evil x

    #51601 Report

    MummyP87
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    Thank you for replying.!

    I can’t believe I even thought we could make things work again, that I believed things would be any different to before. I feel so stupid..!! I feel like i’ve let my children down. And I don’t know how mentally I can overcome the accusation of abusing my child altho now he is saying he never said those things which is standard behaviour for him.

    It is so hard doing this alone spesh trying to co-parent with someone like him! But like you say we can do this and will come out bigger and stronger. Just today is not that day, I can barely function right now. My head is pounding the kids have trashed the house, my heart literally is beating out of my chest with anxiety and worry that he will try for custody now as he is that spiteful and his family are quite well off whereas I have nothing..!!! I literally left him with nothing, just clothes and toys. Was more or less homeless with 2 small children until recently, living in a family members spare room. Which makes me feel even more sick that now he is accusing me of child abuse. Sorry to rant on xx

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