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    JustSarah
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    Hi!

    So my husband left when my baby was 6 months old, he’s now 9 months. I don’t know if this is good advice or not, so sorry in advance!

    But personally I had said from the beginning that it’s too much for my maternal mental health to be away from my baby for such long periods of time. I’m breastfeeding so practically overnights and whole days wouldn’t work anyway, but I wanted to make it clear from the beginning that feeding aside, I know I wouldn’t be able to handle it.
    I just think it’s such a hard situation to find yourself in already, that you need to be kind to yourself and stick up for yourself and know what could (or almost certainly would in my case!) make you feel worse. For the most part if your situation is anything like mine, you are now the sole parent of your baby. And as much as I understand it’s important for your baby to bond with both parents, and as much as you may well need to break and the rest (and definitely take it!) if too much time apart is too stressful then just don’t do it.
    They are only this little once, you’re grieving your relationship, and your still on maternity leave recovery from pregnancy and labour. It’s a lot. So my instincts say “happy mum happy baby” and whatever makes you feel comfortable in the “now” is what you should go with.

    also, things change constantly when they are this age. Next month little one might be teething and keeping you awake for nights on end and a night away might be everything you need to be able to cope. So just be honest about it all…

     

    I hope this helps! Feel free to message if you very want to chat.  x

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