[Mooby88]

@Damiank1983 thank you for the reply and yes it is fine.

That is very true what you are saying about them eventually getting older. I don’t wish for them to get older as we love our kids right but it can be lonely.  It is just hard to know you are the parent left to pick up the pieces whilst the other gets to live life more freely.

Thank you for your kind words I do try to remind myself that I am trying my best and its not easy but I’m sure you know yourself that sometimes you just wish you had someone there to share the load so to speak.

[Mooby88]

My ex doesn’t appear to be doing more with his new partner but the things he said he didn’t want he is now doing with her ie he didn’t want anymore kids but after 5 months with her she was pregnant and he didn’t want to get married as it was just a piece of paper his words were and 10 months or so in he proposed to her. And he also wasn’t keen on the idea of being surrounded by lots of kids and especially when there is more than 1 baby daddy and yet he is now with someone who has 4 kids by different men. It has hurt to know everything he said to me was just lies. I can’t help but think why did he get so lucky and have that instant happy ending without having to do any effort for it or even any effort to better himself for another relationship it just came to him. I’m not bitter either but you can’t help question everything. I just hope one day I can be in a better place and indifference.

[Mooby88]

Sorry to hear about your situation. It is horrible isn’t it to feel betrayed by the person closest to you. I have no idea why my ex would want to go out of his way to hurt me given he has moved on and happy I just don’t understand why someone would want to do that when they are meant to be in a good place. I can only imagine If I met someone now and was happy that the last thing I’d want to do is be having conflict with my ex. You just wouldn’t talk and leave it at that aslong as there is access that is all that matters. I just hate that he has that emotional hold on me still where It still upsets me the whole situation. If only I could be like him and not care it would make life easier.

[Mooby88]

@busman403 to be honest everyone around me can’t understand why he is taking it to court as like someone said he gets a decent amount of access considering some dads struggle to even have contact so the fact he sees them over 4 days with 1 of those being overnight is reasonable. I just feel like its just a way to slate me and show them my wrong doings. I have said a lot of stuff when I was upset and angry but I’m only human and its just because I felt hurt but he still has continued to see the kids. He has also acted in ways that have been horrible but it seems like he is just painting me out to be the bad person. Its just sad as I never imagined this would be us as we were so close and the best of friends in the relationship. Its affected me mentally because I still feel in a state of shock that the one person I always thought highly of has been the one to hurt me.

[Mooby88]

@Steve3334 yes he has them overnight once a week and sees them through out the week too. The whole arrangement has been to suit him, I never got to decide as with me not working it wasn’t ever considered. We do not get along or talk and when we do its a lot of tit for tat and he is always sarcastic and sometimes angry.  He has threatened court since he left when ever I have challenged him and said no to demands ie meeting his partner after a few months, but he never followed through with it. I got a text telling me he will see me in court and his lawyer will wipe the floor with me. That is the level of attitude I get from him. I admit its strained between us and a lot said on both parts but he said he is happy and yet all I get is anger and attitude even not talking he looks at me like something he’s stepped in. I think the court issue has came off the back of me refusing for the kids to go away with his parents after I’d read and heard his mom had been saying horrible things about me. We used to get on so well but as soon as her son met someone else she became cold and acted like he did no wrong. I don’t really know what outcome he is hoping for as like I said he sees them a lot with it currently being 4 days a week which is a lot considering some dads don’t get that from stories I’ve read so I think I’m doing right for the kids sake as much as I can.

[Mooby88]

Hi sorry to hear about your situation but in my experience the whole living together doesn’t last. Myself and my ex tried this for a year to co-parent our kids after a 14 year relationship but one day he just suddenly decided he wanted to move out and go to his parents. From going through that I realise now it was only ever short term until someone else came along and this is what happened with my ex he moved out and started a relationship 3 weeks later. Its been 11 months and now hes engaged. I personally if I were you consider if this is a good idea especially now she has feelings for someone else. In the long run who ends up getting hurt? It will be hard to seperate those feelings when your constantly seeing eachother everyday.

[Mooby88]

@anon321 its funny that you mention about feelings as everyone around has said for someone who is over me hes not demonstrating it because he doesn’t want to talk to me and when we do hes just angry a lot of the time. I can’t see this though and to be honest the fact hes already in a serious relationship and another baby on the way makes me think hes got to be over me/what we had.

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