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My daughters been with her mum since friday and she’ll be back tonight. We’ve got my mum and sister here this christmas so I’ll be doing the cooking, this is my first time hosting so I’m getting really nervous about it now. Today I’m tackling the wrapping and food prep. Wish me luck

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Merry christmas Staceylou

It can be a difficult and stressful time of year, as single parents it has its own challenges and own unique rewards.

How will you and your children be spending christmas this year?

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I’m sorry to hear this Nikjjay. It must feel really raw right now. Let your 6yo son be your focus. Things will work out it won’t feel like it right now but it will. Make sure you look after yourself too.

What are your plans for christmas?

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Hello chick23

How are you and your son?

I really hope all is well and you have a wonderful christmas

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Hello where abouts in West Yorkshire are you?

Leeds and Wakefield used to be my go to places to escape

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Hello Cat mum what music are you into? What are your go to podcasts?

I hope you’re well. Merry Christmas

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Thanks for the reply. Sadly it’s not as simple as a seperation issue. There are under lying issues. She’s felt belittled by her mum she overheard a converation over the phone about her behaviour and attitude she was called ungrateful. This has been called my problem because I’m too soft on her but I don’t experience any issues regarding her behaviour or attitude bar the norm from a 7yo girl. Any issues we do have we try and deal with them calmly and with understanding. I get the impression her mum snaps at her and stresses out.

Sadly her mother isn’t as reasonable as you or I. A cooling off period would be seen as a negative on her rather than thinking of our daughters needs. I would be accussed of taking her away from her and no amount of reason or reassurance from me would change that mindset.

Life would be so much easier if she washed her hands of us both. We’d both be so much happier.

For now I’ll raise these issues with her and negotiate a couple of hours on a Saturday and go from there. I’m expecting a backlash.

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I’ve had similar issues. Any arrangement me and the ex agree on is usually dismissed after a short time. I’m expected to drop any plans I have to accomadate the ex. I’ve also had the abuse. To jump through hoops to come to arrangent that won’t be adhered to, seems like too much hassle to me. I’m sorry I’m of no use

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Welcome Nay

I just wanted to say you’re not alone. I’m also struggling to keep my head above water. I also feel ashamed to say I’m struggling, and I know I shouldn’t but it’s foolish pride. I sadly can’t offer advice or guidance but I do hope your situation gets better

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Hello stardust I thought I’d change my profile pic to see if I could help you out but I’m now on an angle. I think you can stretch the box to fit the picture. I hope you’re well and welcome back

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Hi Lily and welcome

Loneliness when my daughters away is still something I struggle with 6 years on its never gotten easier but I kind of cope better with it now as I have no real expectations. I tend to spend my time doing housework or putting it off to relax. I wish I could be more proactive. I hope there is some light in the situation for you. Do what you love be kind to yourself.

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Thankfully common sense prevailed. Upto the morning I was sure I’d be going on my own, the night before was awful I couldn’t relax. I’m glad me and my daughter got to share that time together.

Thank you

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Thank you I wasn’t aware of anything like this. I will make that call.

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