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    Kate39
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    Coincidental…

    #55982 Report

    Kate39
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    Hey, I’m in Lutterworth too.

    #54565 Report

    Kate39
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    It’s not selfish. It’s normal! I work as a secondary English teacher 3 days a week. My daughter’s dad and I were separating but he passed away Feb 2020. My daughter is 6 now. When she goes to bed, I do all my marking and planning. I’ve just come to accept that I’m permanently exhausted!

    I do get my 2 days off a week where I do the food shop, cleaning, some of my work. I’ve been having counselling calls as my partner’s death was traumatic. My daughter now had fortnightly therapy sessions on my days off too – so they disappear each week!

    I just accept now that the house will never be perfect, it will always be a scrabble to find clean ballet/drama/tap/swimming kit 2 minutes before we have to leave for her lessons and stuff.  It is what it is!  But it’s not selfish to sometimes feel you want some time.

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    Kate39
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    Hope you don’t know my NYE cheating scumbag Mr Marr…he’s from the same town as you😂

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    Kate39
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    I had a very impulsive date with someone from Tinder to give myself something to put makeup on for and try and feel a bit better about myself after the fiasco. Knew he wasn’t for me the second he turned up. Was nice enjoy and we got on alright. But he announced he wants a girlfriend within about 5 minutes and he kept checking his shares on the laptop he brought with him 😂🙈. Think he was trying to impress me? 🤷🏼‍♀️ not sure 😂. (It didn’t.)

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    Kate39
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    Ah yeah I’m ok thanks. Basically I took a risk on someone for a NYE date. He knew all of my story – that I’d lived with a compulsive liar for 7 and a half years, how hard and awful that had been and how badly treated I was. There were good bits in that relationship but I stayed 100 times over because he was my daughter’s dad. He actually passed away just before 1st lockdown started so things had been difficult for sure. Anyway, it ended up being a relationship with this guy. He stayed here up to 4 nights a week, worked from home with me here, a lot of time together. After 3 months I discovered he was absolutely next level deceiving me. Like, my mind was blown by how bad it was. Sleeping with his ‘friend’ behind my back and them talking and laughing about me in their messages when arranging hook ups and stuff. And that was the least of it. I’m ok now, it ended just as Easter was starting. But it’s really knocked my trust in people yet again.
    Had a few other dates since which have been fine when we met but then gone super weird!
    I’m totally ready to be with someone and have the nice bits as I feel I’ve not really had any of that for about 8 years now. But I’m not ready to be lied to, messed around and deceived again. So it’s a tricky one. But yeah – I’ve just discovered there’s A LOT of people on these apps with serious issues. Even some I’ve only spoken to over message. Like a lot of them disappear for ages then reappear saying how their struggling and their head’s messed up and stuff in life in general. So many issues. It’s really off-putting! Struggling to find anyone who has their life in order and can look after themselves, let alone be considerate of other people! 😂

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    Kate39
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    I will answer this – but I’m shattered tonight and it’s not the most joyous story to tell. But will reply properly soon.

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    Kate39
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    I am. My daughter’s dad and I were in the process of separating. My daughter doesn’t know as he then passed away before he moved out. She was 5 then, she’s 6 now. But it’s just me and her. My mum helps me out on my working days. I work 3 days a week as a teacher.

    #54539 Report

    Kate39
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    Hi, I’ve recently started trying online dating too. And what I would say is…it’s not you.
    I’ve had some very strange experiences over the last few months. And (amongst my tears, confusion and general w*f feelings) I’ve learnt that a lot of people out there in the dating world just don’t make sense!

    I’m gradually learning not to take any of it personally and to shrug off the strange stuff and nonsense and keep moving regardless.
    So…it really probably isn’t you. Online dating is a strange, brutal world where a lot of people aren’t even what they seem. x

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