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    Karenspangle
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    Hi Justine, thank you, I will do this. I was thinking I might set up a virtual group first, would it be okay to set up a local facebook page (maybe called Gingerbread Ribble Valley)?

    #41672 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Thanks for replying, was starting to think there weren’t any other single parents around! I will message you 🙂 x

     

    #41610 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Poor you. I haven’t been through so much (just one emotionally abusive narcissistic husband I left at Christmas, and two children) but wanted to give some support anyway. You’ve been through so much with so little help, you are stronger than you think so don’t give up on yourself. Do the right thing for you. It would be tough to keep the baby, but maybe close enough in age to your 4-year old for them to grow up together and become a strong family together. Maybe it can be worth it in the end. I am here if you want to chat, don’t feel that you are alone. x

    #41608 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Hi GeorgiaLouise, I am happy to chat and could always do with more friends! The loneliness is tough, isn’t it. And difficult for friends in couples to understand I think. x

     

    #41607 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Just giving my own post a bump up the list! Or Lancashire generally…?

    #41475 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Hi, thank you so much for posting this. I cried myself to sleep last night after seeing on facebook that people who I thought of as friends had an outdoor get-together, and none thought to ask me to join them, when I’m the one who has barely spoken to another adult for 3 months… so seeing this has helped me realise I’m not the only one! Maybe finding other single parents is the way forward. x

     

    #35844 Report

    Karenspangle
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    S.Lee80 that is great to hear, think volunteering in something you enjoy will really help on all levels. I hope to do something similar, just need to get through next few months then I can get on with my life (I am left trying to sell family home, will then move over to my family with children when we can). Don’t let him get you down. Remember, at least you don’t live with him anymore. Maybe you can make the arrangements with your children more routine so there’s very little need for him to contact you during the week? Good luck x

    #35843 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Thank you Phil, you are right and I will keep talking! Think people want to help but don’t know what to say sometimes.

    #35820 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Hi Phil Spinks, the loneliness is tough isn’t it? This miserable weather doesn’t help lift the spirits either! Just separated 3 weeks ago today, and finding it feels okay to talk about it to friends once or twice, after that it just feels like I’m going on and on, so try to pretend everything’s normal and fine, which it still definitely isn’t. Happy to chat any time.

    #35643 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Also want to say thank you for posting this! It’s 3 weeks today since my separation from husband of 11 years (though have been emotionally checked-out at least 2 years) and had already found myself tempted to look at dating sites. You are so right: I am not ready, I don’t have the time or emotional capacity and I need to be there for my children and learn who I am again. But the loneliness and isolation is sooo hard.

    #35642 Report

    Karenspangle
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    S.Lee80 I think sometimes you just have to get the right doctor! Make another appointment, ask for a sympathetic doctor. But also see what you can do for yourself: make time to get out in daylight, exercise, gardening, yoga, write your thoughts down in a journal, meditation/mindfulness- all good things for anxiety/depression/insomnia. And it does help to talk, give me a shout any time you want to chat x

    #35641 Report

    Karenspangle
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    He is the controlling, manipulative one, and you know that, but if he repeats it often enough you will start to believe it. Get as much support from family and friends as you can and get counselling if possible- you can’t put up with this on your own. And yes, you are doing great.

    #35594 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Poor you, sounds as though you are struggling and sorry your family don’t feel they can help. I have just left my 11 year marriage to someone who sounds quite similar, and I also suffer from anxiety and insomnia. Go to your GP and tell them everything. My gp referred me to womencentre for counseling at very low cost, maybe it would be helpful to you too. Keep swimming x

    #35593 Report

    Karenspangle
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    Get all the support you can, friends, family (you will need as much as you can get) and leave as soon as you can. Good luck, you deserve much better than this.

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