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    Is he self employed as that’s probably how he gets away with it. As my ex husband also as far as I’m aware still gets a bonus on top of his wages and cms treat it as income and divide it over the year other than if it isn’t and thats his wage the coop is bloody well paid now! My ex husband says he has no money but I’d like to earn £4000 a month and claim to be poor his mum and dad also pay for almost everything for him I don’t get it all the money he earns and he took our boys on holiday and gave them £5 spending money! And always looking at ways to cut maintenance

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    Hi I sent you a private message too hope you don’t mind

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    You said he’s going to carry on living there this is my current situation my ex and his 16 year old going to be living in my joint mortgage atm home but in the process of him buying me out have you considered that?

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    I asked this on my journal the other day and was told if they are in full time education and you still get child benefit for them then no it doesn’t effect it

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    My ex once called cms and told them he wanted a full investigation on my bank account as the boys told him we went for mcdonalds lunch he said he was sick of me waisting HIS money on silly things but what pisses me off is I work part time aswell yet everything the boys have he says to them things like oh you have new trainers there nice I paid for them just to get at me. Cms told him they wouldn’t be doing that because even if I wanted to save every last penny of maintenance and take them on holiday that  was up to me and that he shouldn’t be so bitter about providing for his kids. He will literally try everything to reduce his payments I have just lost £60 a month because he had 53 nights last year and reported that 1 extra night when that’s the first time he’s ever had over the 52 so never counted as shared care before.

     

    I just don’t understand parents who get so funny over providing and think the receiving parent is suddenly not deserving of there help anymore.

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    Do cms know what he is earning is it declared through hmrc as I get child maintenance for my 2 boys and I see through the review document exactly what my ex earns but if self employed they don’t always declare and seem to get away with it

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    An abortion is a big thing and it takes a lot of thinking to make that decision its not anyone else’s decision. I’m the opposite end to you I have 2 older children and then in 2020 found out I was pregnant again so big age gap my family weren’t particularly pleased as I’m 39 now so was 37 I was so scared of what people would say and some of my family took a while to come round but now everyone loves her to bits and wouldn’t be without her.

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    Hi

    I can’t offer much advice in the way of being pregnant at 19 and how it will effect your life etc but I can say my sister was pregnant with her first at 19 she kept her baby by beautiful niece who’s now 20 my sister was and is a fantastic mum yes there were times that she did struggle financially and it did cause the normal family judgement you can never please everyone on when you have your first child but you need to do what is right for you and what you want not what others tell you because it is your life. If you decide to keep the baby your family will come round and love your baby just how they would at any age it will just take time. To me it sounds as though you have decided to keep the baby by the way you say you would go into deep depression and that you regretted your first abortion. You do not need to be with the father if you decide to keep the baby so you shouldn’t be worrying about that yes you need to tell him but just explain that you do not want any emotionally involvement or a relationship with him but if he wants to financially support the baby and have a part in there upbringing that you can both come to an agreement on that.

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    I’m not being rude it’s not that at all because he is one very selfish man he drops them when it suits fathers day didn’t see them eventhough I offered him the whole day ad was my weekend he wanted Friday to Sunday as he knew its my daughters the boys half sisters birthday his mum and dad been on holiday for the last 2 weeks because he would have to do the travelling instead of them he said he couldn’t have them he lives 30 mins away it’s his way or no way

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    The answer is you can’t he did it because he knew your reaction as that’s exactly what mine used to do then I stopped giving the reaction and the only reason I did is because she was the women he had am affair with and why our 15 year relationship 11 years marriage ended and he told the boys they weren’t together when he told me he was having an affair.

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    If in both your names you both have to agree is he wanting to get the house valued to know what he’s entitled to for divorce purpose or to sell it? As neither of you can put it on the market without the other agreeing and signing

    #67495 Report

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    I have been claiming cms since 2017 for my 2 boys there dad wanted originally an agreement between ourselves when we first split which I thought would be fine he managed 1 month then it was I haven’t got much money (was living rent free and back with his parents then and working as a retail manager) then he’d go out loads wouldn’t have the boys book things like concerts and hotels for him and the women he had the affair during our marriage with and let it slip too the boys. So I then thought no I’m not having this went to cms who sorted it to find out he had been earing so much more money than he let on and had been stashing it all away while I was left thinking we were poor. Cms obviously do a yearly review and he is well paid but still he creates every month doesn’t think because he has the boys every other weekend and 1 night for dinner that the amount he pays is fair also was trying to force our 16 year old to do an apprenticeship when he leaves school so he no longer has to pay but our son doesn’t want to do that much to my ex husbands disgust. It makes me so angry when the other parent feels part of there responsibility has gone because they are not with the other parent now.

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