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16 October 2018 at 1:45 pm #16887
Hi I’m South East Kent ME10 Postcode where are you?14 October 2018 at 7:07 pm #16845
Is he self employed? Because if he has an employer they take his figure from his p60 by going straight to tax office as my ex has a salary and gets a yearly bonus so they take the full figure not just what he’s salary paid.8 October 2018 at 1:27 pm #16650
My ex moved 35 minutes away back in the summer we were together for 15 years and for all of those 15 years we shared the day with both our families this year he has invited all his gf family round there house so will be taking the boys back to his house and he has the morning from 8-3 & is moaning that some of his time will be taken up with travelling but the way I see it is he chose to move and all his immediate family live in the same town as I do so if the travelling is such an issue he has an alternative although personally I see 35 mins as not that far a journey considering I go and see my nan and grandad every Xmas morning and they live the same distance on foot away as I don’t drive as what he will be driving but if he wants his children to go to his house then surely you just drive it.7 October 2018 at 7:49 am #16606
If the joint account upsets you can’t you open a new account and both pay relevant amount in for bills I had this crossover bit too so I transferred the account back into my name and he transferred the money in because I don’t think I could of handled seeing that either. I know exactly how you feel though his contract phone was in my name so I could see how much he talked to her when he told me that nothing was going on on the day he left he phoned her for 2 hours as soon as he left me and on the month we split he sent her over 1000 texts but nothing was going on yeah right so I couldn’t put up with seeing it as it was driving me mad so made him pay his contract up and get one in his own name.5 October 2018 at 7:04 am #16537
Only hurtful because 19 months ago that wasn’t the life he wanted family and a wife it was boring and he couldn’t do it anymore. Now he’s doing it all again just not married her yet.
But I know I’m still happier out of it his first affair was when our youngest was 4 months old so eventhough he’s having another child if he wants that won’t stop him going elsewhere and I don’t have to deal with that anymore.
You will be happy again I promise you just takes time4 October 2018 at 5:22 pm #16512
My ex left 19 months ago for the same reason was having an affair I divorced him for adultery literally as quick as I could he left Feb and we were divorced by December same year I couldn’t stay married to someone that chose a new life and gf over his wife and kids after we were divorced it gave me a different prospective on things and now the only involvement I have with him is if it to do with the kids people may say I’m wrong for this but we didn’t stay friends for the sake of the kids and it’s the best way for me to cope having nothing to do with him he had 2 affairs why would I want to. But now I’m happy still single but ready when the time comes and the boys are happy and still spend time with there dad too.
Not sure what the near future brings as just found out through the boys he and same gf having a baby but just hope that doesn’t change the relationship for my children with him will have to wait and see4 October 2018 at 12:52 pm #16497
I am sharing Xmas day and boxing day. But know what you mean occasions are so hard being a single parent.1 October 2018 at 7:21 pm #16386
It was his 2nd affair during our marriage so don’t think he’s going to change don’t need that in my life.
Your probably right though how are you otherwise is it in any way civil or at the constant argument stage have you got maintenance and contact sorted ok1 October 2018 at 4:39 pm #16370
I cried when they told me not because I want him back because I definetly don’t we are divorced now so I’d never go back it’s very hurtful as he told me I can’t have this life anymore I don’t want it I don’t want family life I need to find myself and then straight away said he liked her told me her name and even told the kids but I’m not stupid he had been having another affair then starts another family he doesn’t even help a great deal with our 2 he has for dinner on 1 day in the week after school and then from 3pm sat -6pm Sunday every other weekend.1 October 2018 at 4:22 pm #16367
He will be and it’s still about control. I find if you show them it bothers you they get a kick out of it and then do something bigger that they will know will bother you or upset you for the reaction.
I found out through my 2 kids that his gf that he left us for is pregnant after him apparantely leaving us because he didn’t want that life he didn’t want to live as a family and be married he wanted to find himself and have me time apparantely he was 33 when he left with 2 kids now 19 months later living with that girl and baby on the way so the only difference is he’s not married he will have the same life all again my eldest is 12 and said why didn’t dad want to live with us but now having another child so believe me you still have more to come1 October 2018 at 2:49 pm #16358
Unfortunately the partner that moves on straight away in my experience doesn’t see it like that this happened with my kids too as much as it is really frustrating and insensitive too us there is nothing we can do about it again talking from experience the more you comment the more they do it.1 October 2018 at 1:13 pm #16354
Absolute hell. We agreed our arrangements for each occasion in mediation now my ex has changed his mind and thinks he can dictate and tell me what I’m doing and when and this time I’m not backing down I’ve been walked over enough. He’s threatened me with court again this is the 12th threat so now I’m at the point I just said go on then do it as yet no evidence that he has and please before someone tells me it’s not about what I want believe me I have asked my kids and there my only focus.31 August 2018 at 8:58 am #15232
Can i ask why so many people cms is automatically less as I have been using them for over a year now when it was set up first time it came out at £73 more a month and have just had 1st review and has gone up by another £47.
Do you know his exact earnings as if so have you used the cms calculator? I like you used it to stop the hassle every month as we originally set up our own agreement and out of 5 months he paid 2 without any fuss and then the other 3 were nothing but threats and blackmail so I had enough and now think it was the best decision I made saves all the control and arguments.5 August 2018 at 3:12 pm #14183
I have tried to reason with him but no talking to him30 July 2018 at 7:27 pm #14012
I do walk alot and it does take my mind of things temporarily but just get lonely as so used to having them here and first full week but I will have to just get used to it.