[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @BilboBaggins, I hope other parents reply soon and share their experiences. It will vary depending on whether people make a private arrangement with their ex, or use the Child Maintenance Service. You might find this page helpful, Arranging child maintenance | Gingerbread  and our helpline Talk to us | Gingerbread might be able to answer any questions too. Hope you manage to find some answers.

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Yamaha, I hope you get a response from other parents soon. In the meantime, have you been in touch with our helpline if you have any specific questions how the process works? You can find the helpline opening times here and you might also find it helpful to read through the CMS information pages on our website Child maintenance | Gingerbread 

 

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @newsinglemum2024,

thanks for reaching out – I hope you get chatting to other parents soon.  You might find it helpful to talk to our advice line about universal credit – their opening times are here Talk to us | Gingerbread. Or as Helen suggested on the other thread, our digital group for parents of children with additional needs (https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/your-community/groups/single-parents-can-children-with-additional-needs/ )might be a good place to chat to other people with similar experiences. Good luck, and I hope things feel a bit brighter soon.

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Mumof1to3 that’s a lovely idea. I hope some other parents respond soon! 🙂

best wishes, Kirsty

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi and thanks to everyone who has commented on this thread. @FurBag36 we’ve sent you a private message to check you’re feeling ok, because we know it’s really distressing to have this kind of situation with an ex who has been abusive.

 

We’d like to remind everyone of our forum guidelines, of which the most important is being kind and sensitive especially when people are going through a difficult time.  We’d encourage anyone who wants to debate broader issues to start a thread focused on that topic, rather than making these points on a thread where people are talking about difficult personal experiences. Using separate threads means we can offer space for debate and discussion, as well as emotional and moral support to people who are struggling. We’re going to close this thread to comments now.

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @browneye16, @Snowy2104 and @Chesca88, hope you are doing ok. As others have said, the emotional journey of a break up is a long one, so do keep reaching out to other single parents on this forum. For practical advice about finances, living arrangements and childcare you might find it helpful to speak to our Advice Line – details of opening hours are here Talk to us | Gingerbread

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Franhag111 this sounds like a tough situation. I hope other parents start chatting soon, I think lots of us can relate to having a moody 12 year old, I know I can! Thanks for posting.

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Blondiegirl, this sounds like a really difficult situation and I hope you’re getting some support.  You might find some useful information about managing child contact arrangements here Child contact arrangements | Gingerbread but it could be a good idea to speak to our helpline as well – details of their opening hours are here: https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/talk-to-us/  Hopefully some other parents who have faced similar will be able to share some of their experiences too.

[GingerbreadKirsty]

@FireLeo77 it was lovely to talk to you on Monday! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us – it’s just frustrating that there seems to be yet another obstacle for you. The determination you and the other parents on this thread have shown is just amazing – hang in there! xx

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Daxia this sounds like something our helpline might be able to give you some advice on – details of how to contact them are here Helpline | Gingerbread

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Mimi80, our helpline will be able to advise you on this. Here are details of their opening hours. Helpline | Gingerbread You might also find more parents to have been in similar situations in our digital group for people with children with additional needs. It’s run by single parents and is a great place to chat live. They organise regular online meet-ups too. Here’s how to join: Children with additional needs (CAN group) | Gingerbread

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @ProudMumofOneUK this sounds like a really tough situation. I hope chatting to other parents on here will help you feel like you’re not alone.

I recommend you give our helpline a call. They’ll be able to advise you on dealing with the harrassment and how you can make arrangements with your ex moving forward.  Helpline | Gingerbread.

The National Domestic Abuse helpline will also be able to help: Home | Refuge National Domestic Abuse Helpline (nationaldahelpline.org.uk)

Young Minds have lots of good info on their website which may help your daughter, and they have a parent’s helpline too to help you support your daugther’s wellbeing: YoungMinds | Mental Health Charity For Children And Young People | YoungMinds

 

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[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Lugsey I hope other parents start chatting soon. In the meantime, have you looked at our advice pages? – you might find this page on separation useful,   Separating | Gingerbread or you could speak to one of our advisers via the helpline Helpline | Gingerbread or webchat Webchat | Gingerbread. Hope that’s helpful.

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi @Purplesunflowers

thanks for posting – I hope other parents start chatting soon

[GingerbreadKirsty]

Hi Frogz888,

I hope other parents on here will share their experiences too, but in the meantime this sounds like something our advice webchat or helpline can advise you about. Here are details of their opening hours:

 Advice and support | Gingerbread​

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