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Ok try to save some money without her knowing for a while say 3-6 months so you have a bit more of a cusion,then put the house on the market without her knowing until the for sale sign goes up outside the house then she will start to realize your not messing around anymore with her as you want the situation resolved.

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<li style=”text-align: right;”>Just serve her with divorce papers no messing dont contest it.leave her everything in the house except things you can take that are personal and just leave due to unreasonable behavior.then see what she does.no arguments just get away and leave her to it.the money you lose from her messing about you can get again by not having to deal with her.instead of paying expensive lawyers save your money at the very least she won’t expect it and then your free to just start over.

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Is it ok to pm you?

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I have not joined any groups as I have been lucky but they are available in some areas but it’s important in having a support network also as its nice to have a good vent when you need to which is important and as for the site it is generally good if you need to talk to people who are or have been going thru what you are at the moment as ive used it for 4 years on and off.if you want to talk one on one you can pm people also and you can add people as friends and stuff.

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Not local to you but it’s not unusual to be pushed out of social circles bit dont let it detract on you as it says more about them really.you could try contacting one or two of them and explain how you are feeling as they maybe not aware how it’s effecting you. If you want a chat anytime happy to talk if you want to.x.

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Hi.i know it’s difficult but just be honest about it as then when  she gets older she will know the truth so you will find that there’s people in her life which will give her the love she needs to have and explain to her she does have a dad and you can explain it to her when she is old enough to understand properly but dont gloss over it as i find actually being upfront is better and as she grows up find positive role models who are male as that can also help as your circumstances change overtime your bond with your daughter will just get stronger if she knows the truth about things.kids will deal with it in their own way anyway but always be honest in an age appropriate way if you can.

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Hi.if this does not work have you thought about a seperation also where you dont actually break up but he moves out for a while and you both get some space as that can sometimes open things up better but it keeps everything ticking along ie not effect the kids schooling  and if there’s no 3rd partys involved that is and I’ve known people where it’s actually saved their marriages as just having some time away from each other can helps you to see things clearer without the friction of living together temporarily.

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Hi ask your employers if you can continue on flexi arrangements for a while to try to give yourself a little more time to see if you can sort the issues and as for your ex whether or not he wanted the child he’s got on and if he gets a job he’s legally obligated to start paying maintenance for his child whether he wants contact or not.universal credit have online calculators you can use which can tell you any help you can claim.also if you have trusted friends who are sensible mite have some ideas also.dont feel bad as even the most sensible of people come across unexpected problems as nobody is prepared to be a single parent but im sure that you are doing a great job and if you ever want a chat feel free to message.

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hi.sorry things are tough.a similar thing happened with me and my ex.firstly your hurt and confused as it feels like the world has opened up and swallowed you.its difficult to see it at the moment but you will be fine it does take a while to get there but it’s a process of stages but the most important thing is to sort the finances out so atleast you have that security for you and the kids.im a single dad but if you would like a chat anytime then feel free to message.

[Busman403]

Hi sorry your finding things tough.im a single dad with custody of 2 kids.it is not pathetic as break ups are very traumatic times in our lives.if you would like a chat anytime feel free to message

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Hi.no it’s normal to feel over whelmed at times as it can appear never ending but time management can help.give yourself little treats even if its just going to a coffee shop for an hour.have you got any family who can help out to maybe just give you a break.use any school time you mite have spare as a chance to have a rest as most things can wait a little while as things do get easier as children get older.even little things like watching movies can help.if you would like a chat feel free to message but you are doing a great job even if sometimes it does not feel like it.dont be so tough on yourself as it is a balancing act but you do need time for you still which allows you to release the stress.x

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Yes.force your company to make the decision if you can rather than you.plus if you go sick it will give you time to think of your options better and buy you a little time.

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Hi.dont leave voluntarily.let your employers sack you as then you have not gave up your job.which the wpd will have to take on board when you start claiming.if they give you an ultimatum at work then go sick with stress and make an appointment with your doctors explaining the situation and if your in a union then they normally have access to solicitors who can offer legal advice.its often better to force the employers to make the decision than to voluntarily leave just because of your situation.

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Hi.i have a 10 year old son who has anger issues i had him tested for an illness but that came back negative but it did detect an issue with missing genes which effect learning and behaviour so he gets frustrated and angry and has violent outburst.i learned that punishing actually makes it worst so now I use calming measures and also keep a close eye on content such as youtube that mite act as triggers.regular outdoor activities can also help by tiring him out.also diets can have an impact  by making sure he gets all the vitamins and nutrients he needs.have you spoken to the school as they often have teachers who mite be trained in dealing with children thru sen as some schools are better than others at dealing with children who find it difficult.i keep the school up to date on issues and it’s important to know if there’s any problems which may be causing the outbursts..it’s often more than just one thing going on such as responding better to men than women or vice versa.please don’t be embarressed as I know it’s painful to watch and to try to deal with but there is help but it’s difficult to access it sometimes.it you want to talk anytime feel free to message.x.

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• Hi.its important to work out your finances and what you are entitled to once you divorce.you can contact the local council about housing or citizens advice.you can contact universal credit as you can claim even whilst living with an ex partner but you need to prove you have separated by having seperate financial arrangements.try talking to friends who have separated as they can give you an insight  as a support network is also important.if you would like to chat feel free to message.x.

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