[Busman403]

Hi.if this does not work have you thought about a seperation also where you dont actually break up but he moves out for a while and you both get some space as that can sometimes open things up better but it keeps everything ticking along ie not effect the kids schooling  and if there’s no 3rd partys involved that is and I’ve known people where it’s actually saved their marriages as just having some time away from each other can helps you to see things clearer without the friction of living together temporarily.

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Hi ask your employers if you can continue on flexi arrangements for a while to try to give yourself a little more time to see if you can sort the issues and as for your ex whether or not he wanted the child he’s got on and if he gets a job he’s legally obligated to start paying maintenance for his child whether he wants contact or not.universal credit have online calculators you can use which can tell you any help you can claim.also if you have trusted friends who are sensible mite have some ideas also.dont feel bad as even the most sensible of people come across unexpected problems as nobody is prepared to be a single parent but im sure that you are doing a great job and if you ever want a chat feel free to message.

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hi.sorry things are tough.a similar thing happened with me and my ex.firstly your hurt and confused as it feels like the world has opened up and swallowed you.its difficult to see it at the moment but you will be fine it does take a while to get there but it’s a process of stages but the most important thing is to sort the finances out so atleast you have that security for you and the kids.im a single dad but if you would like a chat anytime then feel free to message.

[Busman403]

Hi sorry your finding things tough.im a single dad with custody of 2 kids.it is not pathetic as break ups are very traumatic times in our lives.if you would like a chat anytime feel free to message

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Hi.no it’s normal to feel over whelmed at times as it can appear never ending but time management can help.give yourself little treats even if its just going to a coffee shop for an hour.have you got any family who can help out to maybe just give you a break.use any school time you mite have spare as a chance to have a rest as most things can wait a little while as things do get easier as children get older.even little things like watching movies can help.if you would like a chat feel free to message but you are doing a great job even if sometimes it does not feel like it.dont be so tough on yourself as it is a balancing act but you do need time for you still which allows you to release the stress.x

[Busman403]

Yes.force your company to make the decision if you can rather than you.plus if you go sick it will give you time to think of your options better and buy you a little time.

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Hi.dont leave voluntarily.let your employers sack you as then you have not gave up your job.which the wpd will have to take on board when you start claiming.if they give you an ultimatum at work then go sick with stress and make an appointment with your doctors explaining the situation and if your in a union then they normally have access to solicitors who can offer legal advice.its often better to force the employers to make the decision than to voluntarily leave just because of your situation.

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Hi.i have a 10 year old son who has anger issues i had him tested for an illness but that came back negative but it did detect an issue with missing genes which effect learning and behaviour so he gets frustrated and angry and has violent outburst.i learned that punishing actually makes it worst so now I use calming measures and also keep a close eye on content such as youtube that mite act as triggers.regular outdoor activities can also help by tiring him out.also diets can have an impact  by making sure he gets all the vitamins and nutrients he needs.have you spoken to the school as they often have teachers who mite be trained in dealing with children thru sen as some schools are better than others at dealing with children who find it difficult.i keep the school up to date on issues and it’s important to know if there’s any problems which may be causing the outbursts..it’s often more than just one thing going on such as responding better to men than women or vice versa.please don’t be embarressed as I know it’s painful to watch and to try to deal with but there is help but it’s difficult to access it sometimes.it you want to talk anytime feel free to message.x.

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• Hi.its important to work out your finances and what you are entitled to once you divorce.you can contact the local council about housing or citizens advice.you can contact universal credit as you can claim even whilst living with an ex partner but you need to prove you have separated by having seperate financial arrangements.try talking to friends who have separated as they can give you an insight  as a support network is also important.if you would like to chat feel free to message.x.

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Then I would suggest to just apply to the court for an ammendment order if you can get one as I know how hard it is seeing the kids do something they don’t want to do.a court can ammend an order if its no longer working or if its causing distress to the kids which it clearly is.i have had the same situation with my son where he refuses to stay with his mum and boyfriend so I know how much it hurts but just contact the court as I think there’s a form to fill in.i think it’s a C100 form that you need.

[Busman403]

Hi.sorry things are tough for you.you can try contacting the cms(child maintenance service)and see if they can locate him.if you google cms it will give you the information and they should be able to trace him.

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hi.i would try explaining to your ex that the kids don’t want to go over so often and see if he can scale it back a little as the kids will end up resenting them in the end.if mediation fails you could apply to the courts to amend the contact order on the grounds its not in the kids best interests if they don’t want to go but I know it’s upsetting but as the kids get older they will make their views known to your ex but you need to make sure you don’t get accused of turning the kids against him as its easier to blame you rather than accept the kids dont want to go with him so much.

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Hi.my ex cleared off with another guy and left me to bring our 2 kids up so I can offer an shoulder.you need to keep a roof over your head but also work out a financial settlement of assets which is fair.have you got any parents/relatives you could stay with as its important to keep a roof over yours and the kids head.can you get more hours at work?most divorce lawyers do free 30 mins consultation so that could give you a better understanding of your options.you mite be able to claim uc but you need to be separated and unlink your finances.if you want to chat feel free to message.

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1. Hi.in the event of domestic abuse a court can give an order to change the name without the consent of the other parent but obviously try to get all relevant information when you go to court and they should be able to make an order to change the name.if you google changing childs name due to domestic abuse it will tell you the process.hope this helps.

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If it’s overnight stays then probably as its not about what you do but where the kids sleep.if you google about it then it will tell you the ins and out better.

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