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Hi.i have a 10 year old son who has anger issues i had him tested for an illness but that came back negative but it did detect an issue with missing genes which effect learning and behaviour so he gets frustrated and angry and has violent outburst.i learned that punishing actually makes it worst so now I use calming measures and also keep a close eye on content such as youtube that mite act as triggers.regular outdoor activities can also help by tiring him out.also diets can have an impact  by making sure he gets all the vitamins and nutrients he needs.have you spoken to the school as they often have teachers who mite be trained in dealing with children thru sen as some schools are better than others at dealing with children who find it difficult.i keep the school up to date on issues and it’s important to know if there’s any problems which may be causing the outbursts..it’s often more than just one thing going on such as responding better to men than women or vice versa.please don’t be embarressed as I know it’s painful to watch and to try to deal with but there is help but it’s difficult to access it sometimes.it you want to talk anytime feel free to message.x.

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• Hi.its important to work out your finances and what you are entitled to once you divorce.you can contact the local council about housing or citizens advice.you can contact universal credit as you can claim even whilst living with an ex partner but you need to prove you have separated by having seperate financial arrangements.try talking to friends who have separated as they can give you an insight  as a support network is also important.if you would like to chat feel free to message.x.

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Then I would suggest to just apply to the court for an ammendment order if you can get one as I know how hard it is seeing the kids do something they don’t want to do.a court can ammend an order if its no longer working or if its causing distress to the kids which it clearly is.i have had the same situation with my son where he refuses to stay with his mum and boyfriend so I know how much it hurts but just contact the court as I think there’s a form to fill in.i think it’s a C100 form that you need.

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Hi.sorry things are tough for you.you can try contacting the cms(child maintenance service)and see if they can locate him.if you google cms it will give you the information and they should be able to trace him.

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hi.i would try explaining to your ex that the kids don’t want to go over so often and see if he can scale it back a little as the kids will end up resenting them in the end.if mediation fails you could apply to the courts to amend the contact order on the grounds its not in the kids best interests if they don’t want to go but I know it’s upsetting but as the kids get older they will make their views known to your ex but you need to make sure you don’t get accused of turning the kids against him as its easier to blame you rather than accept the kids dont want to go with him so much.

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Hi.my ex cleared off with another guy and left me to bring our 2 kids up so I can offer an shoulder.you need to keep a roof over your head but also work out a financial settlement of assets which is fair.have you got any parents/relatives you could stay with as its important to keep a roof over yours and the kids head.can you get more hours at work?most divorce lawyers do free 30 mins consultation so that could give you a better understanding of your options.you mite be able to claim uc but you need to be separated and unlink your finances.if you want to chat feel free to message.

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1. Hi.in the event of domestic abuse a court can give an order to change the name without the consent of the other parent but obviously try to get all relevant information when you go to court and they should be able to make an order to change the name.if you google changing childs name due to domestic abuse it will tell you the process.hope this helps.

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If it’s overnight stays then probably as its not about what you do but where the kids sleep.if you google about it then it will tell you the ins and out better.

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Hi.be yourself and not what you think people see.the best look is natural as then you can develope as you get stronger and find your true self again.do things that make you happy and you start with a clean slate.its like riding a bike

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• Hi.sorry your finding it tough as I know it won’t make you feel better but your not alone in feeling this way.even though it’s painful focus on your daughter as it truely is the most amazing thing seeing them grow knowing that you get to spend time watching her blossom.as for your ex you can torture yourself trying to figure it all out and it will be tough for a while but you will eventually stop worrying about it as its better to have good people around you than a bad apple.having a child is the best as partners can come and go but childrens love is unconditional.your only young so you have plenty of time to figure everything out.if you want a chat anyt8me feel free to message.x.

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Hi.sorry your in this situation as ive been there and got the t shirt twice now so it’s really not a nice thing to go thru but life does actually go on after things fizzle out.if you want a chat anytime feel free to pm message.

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My advice would be to just tell her over a coffee in a  Costa so there’s witnesses when she punches you.lolbut seriously I would just talk to her about it as honesty is always better than hiding things and if you can do it reasonably it will be better for all concerned.

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It’s never easy when kids are involved but life goes on but when you go to court your both wasting money that could be used on your kids and travel expences for example rather than lawyer fees and it also causes alot of resentment.the kids are more resourceful and aslong as they know your in their lives it mite be tough initially but over time they usually adapt and like I said with modern tech it’s easier to stay intouch and Devon is not the end of the earth to get after all.

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• That’s where it gets complicated and expensive.try to avoid going to court if you can else you both rack up expensive legal bills and it actually does not really help either of you or the kids but you both have the same rights to access but I’m only guessing as the kids are with you aslong as you make reasonable visitation ie shared holidays and unlimited access via video chat phone calls etc it should be OK.does your ex and you both drive?

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I came close a few years ago but circumstances made it impossible but I would say it is a better quality of life in Devon overall as a friend  I know lives in Weymouth and he loves it.

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