Omg! I am in almost the same situation as you! I am 11 weeks, 4 days pregnant, and when I told the guy that I am pregnant I thought he would be over the moon as he is 50 and he never had children, but he wasn’t that happy. He said, let’s try to have a relationship, as when we conceived, we weren’t together anymore. We have been together for 8 months, but it wasn’t working very well, loads of ups and downs. Anyway, we tried for a few weeks, and I was feeling like he is only trying in front of his friends, not all the time, like he wasn’t calling me, or message me, I felt like he was making me crazy for wanting more. He didn’t want to meet my brother on my birthday, when tried to talk him about future, he actually said he was thinking to go back to his country and not come back, as his family (brothers and sisters) is over there. I said, what about me and the baby, aren’t we your family too? He asked me to move there with him, but he is from Morroco. I don’t speak the language, I don’t have any friends, and he would be the only one with a job. I cannot put my baby in danger. So, after seeing the way he was treating me, I gave him an ultimatum: until he decides if he wants to be with me and the baby, we shouldn’t speak anymore. And this is what he did. It’s been 2 weeks since then, and I started already to think just about me and the baby. I don’t include him in anything. A person who is not happy about his own child, he finds excuses for everything, he is not there for me, he doesn’t want to have a future with me, then it means I am better single than with him.
And somehow we will manage. We are strong enough! I know all your worries, i have them too. Last weekend I literally cried the whole weekend, as I am not sure how to do this all by myself. But, at least now we have each other. My name is Bianca and I live in Hounslow East. Maybe we can meet for a coffee if you need someone to talk to.
