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    Alison 11
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    Hi Natalie I’m also in Leicester.  Mum of three . Be lovely to chat to you xx

    #42687 Report

    Alison 11
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    It is better when there is zero contact. I used to dread getting messages as they would bring me down so much. I think the email approach is much better. Can I ask when you were waiting for arrangements to be put in place did he still have your kids or did you keep them with you ? Also was he awkward when he realised you were getting things legal?

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    Alison 11
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    God I feel your pain so much . Our stories are so similar . It really is exhausting and I just want you to know I’m here for you if you need a chat .  Can’t believe he even goes as low as going on dating sites you on . The problem is they never meet anyone and if they do this cycle will start again for whoever they meet. You won’t have to deal with it forever. .I know it’s easy to say but the more support you have the stronger you become . Xx

    #42683 Report

    Alison 11
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    I think they will always seem to say everything is our fault. It’s just so wrong to go through the kids. I  put up with it for so long that now my son is getting like him..calling me names sometimes..saying I’m a bad mum..repeating things his dad says about me and I never say anything bad to him bout his dad. I get the same if I ring when he with his dad. .he won’t answer phone. This is why I got to sort contact out and for now keep my son with me until his dad realises none of this is right

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    Alison 11
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    Thanks belsey too for your help. Much appreciated xx. Going through any type of abuse is so hard and I can relate totally with you

    #42680 Report

    Alison 11
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    Thanks for your help picklepie24 . It helps so much knowing others have gone through similar . Another thing to add is he has blocked me from his phone so no contact.  He bought my son a very cheap basic pay as u go phone last year so he could phone him. I didn’t mind but now he is ringing on it to speak to my son and not me. He then tells my son he will pick him up. I managed to take phone when my son on it and I said unless you speak directly to me you are not seeing our son as it’s ridiculous going through a child’s phone . So I feel atm until arrangements are in place I need to keep my son with me. I just end up feeling guilty doing it but otherwise it’s so stressful not knowing when he is back.

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    Alison 11
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    There is history of domestic violence this is why I’m dubious on mediation. I’m willing to try but it’s whether he will and he will be happy when I’m having to pay the costs. Where do I get the forms to fill in and do you think I would need a solicitor to first write to him with what I want from contact or would it be a waste of money

    #42670 Report

    Alison 11
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    If you could send me her details I could try contacting her . Thanks

    #42667 Report

    Alison 11
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    Hi because he is so awkward atm I have tried to talk about contact but he won’t stick to anything . Really stressful for me

    #41982 Report

    Alison 11
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    I can really relate to what you are going through . I divorced my ex over 5 years ago after 20 years of abuse. My daughters don’t speak to their dad and I allowed him to see my 7 year old son but it’s been relentless emotional abuse still aimed at me. My son absolutely adores his dad and has no clue what he is really about . It has taken me til now to realise what alienation actually is. My son says things to me and my daughters and my parents that  his dad says which are all horrible. ..he is told to tell the truth and tell him what I’m doing whether I’m on the phone ..my son will be listening and asking who I’m speaking to and will tell me he doesn’t like me and I’m a bad mum. I’ve felt so trapped with all my feelings for so long that now I am going to try to stop this happening anymore. Xx

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