Bereavement

Taking time off work after a bereavement

Being with your children after the death of their other parent will probably be your top priority. Talk to your employer to see if they offer extra time off as part of your contract. This additional time off is often called compassionate leave and may be paid. Although there is no legal right to compassionate leave, many employers do offer it. If they don’t you could ask for paid annual leave or consider taking sick leave if you are not ready to return to work.

In the longer term you may need to think about changing your work patterns to adapt to your new circumstances. Our factsheet on your rights in the workplace gives you information on negotiating with your employer.

Your finances

How you’ll cope financially can be a huge worry after the loss of a partner, and thinking about how you’ll manage on your own can be daunting. Financial support is available, so try to make sure you get all the help you can for you and your family.

Funeral costs

If paying for funeral expenses is difficult because you are on a low income you may be eligible for a funeral payment. Find out more about funeral payments here.

Bereavement support payment

If you were married or in a civil partnership you could be entitled to a bereavement support payment. The Turn2us website has a useful summary of bereavement support payment as well as contact details so that you can make an application. If you were bereaved before 6^th April 2017 you may be entitled to payments such as  bereavement allowance, bereavement payment, widowed parent’s allowance . The Citizen’s Advice Bureau also has lots of online information on all bereavement benefits and can help you work out what you could claim.

You can use the Turn2us online benefits calculator to check if you are entitled to any other benefits and tax credits. If you’d like to talk about your particular circumstances with an expert adviser, call our helpline on 0808 802 0925. It’s free from landlines and mobiles.

Who you need to tell

You’ll also need to let a number of government departments know about your bereavement. The government’s Tell Us Once service means that you don’t have to contact them all – they will do this for you. This page also has lots of helpful information about what else to do when someone dies, such as arranging a funeral and dealing with benefits and tax issues. You can get the details of your Tell Us Once service from your local registrar. The service will contact Her Majesty’s Revenue & Customs (HMRC), the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP), Driver and Vehicle Licensing Agency (DVLA), the Passport Office and your local council on your behalf.

Letting government departments know as soon as possible is really important. It can be difficult, but it will help to ensure that you’re receiving as much financial support as possible.

Looking after your family

Every child will react differently to loss, but spending time together as a family will help you to understand what your children need. Winston’s Wish is a childhood bereavement charity that helps families rebuild their lives after a loss. The charity has a helpline and email advice service for parents, as well as a dedicated website for young people. Grief Encounter also offer support for young people following a bereavement.  Our factsheet on support for children and young people gives more information on where to go for help with particular problems your children may experience.

Looking after yourself

There is support available to help you come to terms with your loss. You might feel that you don’t need support outside of your family and friends – or you may want to talk to someone removed from your situation. See below for different support that is available to you.