[Thewholetime]

Do you qualify for legal aid? There’s a government thing too that provides help for mediation. I’ve just got in touch with someone to do this too as I’m tired of writing up parent plans myself, asking for input, setting boundaries and then being ignored or the plan not being followed. They got back to me about meeting and as i get universal credit it looks like legal aid will cover costs for it.

I’m hoping it will help us work out how to do non contact coparenting though as i just need him out of my life. (Although I spend the whole time my kid is with him feeling super anxious because he’s useless. 😥)

[Thewholetime]

I hear you. Having this same issue, wanting to speak to a man that is only available when it suits him  

 

I’ve been reading a book that’s a little bit on the nose at times but has some interesting ideas. It’s called Exaholic: breaking your addiction to an ex love. It essentially compares romantic love to being as addictive as most other addictions. There’s information on studies that talk about mri scans showing that the same parts of the brain that get addicted to drugs or alcohol are the same parts that respond to seeing images of someone you love. It’s very normal to crave something so intimate that we had for so long.

It’s been helping me a bit understand why i feel the urge to talk to a man still who has been sooooo crap to me for 10 years.

 

 

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