Hi Red poppy,
I’m new to gingerbread myself and I am in a similar situation to you, currently around 9 weeks found out two weeks ago, father and I saw each other on and off for years , he has three kids also and they aren’t aware of me up until now. This week told him about the pregnancy and he’s repeatedly said he doesn’t want it and different excuses to why he doesn’t want it and I already have 1 child , so this would be my second and I’m thinking to do this alone also as I’m scared to abort and I actually want another baby. I think you need to do what’s best for you and and give him a little time and maybe revisit the conversation with him and let him deal with the kids and explain the situation and who you are to him etc etc. your priority is to look after yourself and be kind to yourself and think of your support network outside of him just in case and think also could you forgive yourself if you were not wanting to go through with the pregnancy – I’ve been there and done it and it definitely was traumatic for me and so I don’t wish for anyone or any man to force me to do something I don’t feel comfortable with. Hope this gives you a little comfort.
