[Sunflowers10]

I’m very sorry you have had this happen to you, I really hope you can speak with a doctor and also a midwife about your situation as they will help. I found self helps books very good too. When the man I was seeing abandoned me I thought the same…if I should keep little one or not, but I’m so relieved I am keeping him. Just because his father is dreadful why should that not allow him to have a chance at life is what I thought. Please speak to people that can give you really good support and help for your mental health before making any decisions you might one day regret. I’m now 24 weeks and feeling little man’s kicks is just the best thing ever! Stay strong, we are women, we can do this! Sending hugs x

[Sunflowers10]

Hi Liz8110

ive just read your post, it’s awful that there are some people that can do this to pregnant woman like us. What you have said about crying non stop and feeling guilty is just how I am also, so please know you’re definitely not alone. What I have started doing is firstly keeping active and busy, I tried some walks which help but it takes time to motivate myself to do them so the other thing I’ve started is cooking meals and baking. The next thing I did was arrange to get counselling , I’m trying 6 weeks to begin. Then I have looked online and joined a pregnancy yoga course to meet new ladies who are pregnant aswell. And finally I’ve gone on Amazon and bought a couple of self help books. I found a brilliant one called “abandoned pregnant” by Kandy Dolor. And that one book in itself has helped more than I could have imagined! I recommend you buy it too. You are welcome to message me to vent aswell. You WILL get past this pain, as I will too. it will take time but know that we are in it together! Stay strong x

[Sunflowers10]

hi there thank you ever so much for this post it is very supportive and is helpful to hear of other peoples experiences as single mums and how well you have managed to juggle everything. I’m trying to look for plenty of support and forums like this really do help. Just yesterday I went to look at things I’ll need for the baby and I just felt so overwhelmed I ended just leaving the shop! Because it just made it seem so really! I hope that I’ll not feel quite as worried the next time I try and look for baby things. But hearing your story really has helped , thank you 🙂

[Sunflowers10]

Thank you so much for your advice, I have an appointment with my GP today and I am hoping they can guide me in how to deal with my depression. Thank you for attaching the link aswell that is very useful indeed.
Best wishes 🙂

[Sunflowers10]

Thank you so much for your reply and very helpful advice. As strange as it sounds, it is reassuring to know that I’m not alone with this happening. It’s impossible to understand how someone can just walk away so easily. But I’m not going to try to change his mind, as I do feel that it can only really be his lose in the long run. I only plucked up the courage to tell him last week so to be fair to him the shock must have been overwhelming.

I do have a kind family, it’s small though and not anywhere near by which I do worry about, I have my dad near by who is very happy for me but I really don’t want him to feel he has to try and be almost like a father figure at his age.

I know somehow I’ll get through gradually if I take it slowly but the future feels like a daunting lonely place at the moment.

But it is very reassuring to hear your story and hear how you came out the other side and with a lovely child to show for it. I hope that will be the case for me soon too.

thank you and best wishes

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