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You’re welcome. It always helps to get a different perspective so coming on here and talking about it was the right thing to do.

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In short, no, you’re not a bad mother. From what you’ve said above, you walked away from an abusive relationship which can only benefit your son’s wellbeing. That’s not bad parenting, that’s putting your son’s welfare first.
As for feeling guilty that you can’t afford to go on holidays and trips with him, that’s a normal feeling that a huge number of single parents feel, myself included. Again that shows how much you care for him as some parents wouldn’t even be bothered. I was once told that all you have to do with your kids is love them and play with them. Whether you take your son on holiday or not, as long as he’s happy that’s what he will remember as he grows up. Simple things like going to the park or going for a walk and exploring will mean just as much to him. Try not to look at what others have and focus more on what you have and can do. It takes time but you will get there.

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I massively over thought my initial holiday booking until it got cancelled due to Covid. The one we actually went on I booked six days before going so I didn’t have time to over think it! 😂 I’d say just go for it. If you have concerns about certain situations then sit down and work each problem individually to find a work around. Then you have a plan to take with you. You’ll look back on it and see how much you have achieved by going. It’ll leave some fantastic memories.

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Hi. I think there are single parents and kids holidays out there but, to be honest, when I took my two away I just booked a standard one. The way I was thinking is that it shouldn’t matter if I turn up at the pool as just the three of us, or book a table for dinner as a three etc. The only challenge I found was having to keep an eye on both of them at all times but thankfully they’d rather play together still at the ages they are.

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