I know exactly how your feeling. My children now teenagers twins now 15 and 16 year old daughter. we went through same problems when they were 2 and 3 years old. He would be controlling and Verbal. I moved close to my family for help so I can go back to work and start again. He saw them this year at Easter after 11 years no contact or calls. His choice he knew where I moved too. My teenagers then after meeting him made a decision not to know him.
Main thing. Don’t arrange anything. You asked him, he will let your daughter down. Enjoy your life with your daughter. One day you will meet someone that will love you and be the perfect father to your beautiful daughter.
If you keep going out your way to arrange times and days. He will let you down.
I know I’ve been there. You are an amazing mother. And one day your daughter will see this and grow up knowing she also can be strong.
God bless.
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