[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

you are my role model, you definitely became stronger than you thought you could be.

i can feel how divorce especially if unexpected can be hard. I sometimes feel lufw is not fair,then something happens and i discover that i have been prepared for something better or that it’s my path in life and i want to write down my story instead of letting things happen.

I am very touched by the replies.
we are not defined by 1 part of our lives :’( . Still trying to feel good enough.

 

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

I can hear you feel lonely, i do miss sharing my struggles with my partner. But i know that it’s for the better. So yes it’s sad to be lonely. But now i started to see loneliness with a new eye. Staying cozy, making sure i am on vitamins, having fresh air, trying to walk outside everyday but it doesn’t work all the time. Talking, texting friends, learning online something new,some selfcare, seeing friends from time to time. This is how I am trying to help myself, trying and trying to take care of my mental health. I believe i can’t change emotions, situation, but i can help myself see the situation differently,this will soothe me.
i really hope you feel better . Send me a message anytime you feel like talkto someone. You are doing your best.you deserve a pat on the back. You deserve to be happy .

 

sherifaxx

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

I totally understand what you are feeling in this moment of your life. You feel something is going to change you are not sure how, it seems that you value your children to the point that makes it worries you the most. It does feel depressing and sad to go through this tunnel. There is a way out. And you will become very very strong by the time you reach the end of this tunnel. You seam to know how to get help, and from who. And i am sure it will take you time to adjust to  new life. It’s so sad that we have to go through this . One wishes there is no pain suffering tiredness . I belyThere is a meaning behind every pain we go through. It makes us know ourselves even better. Be aligned with who we are. Cherish our selves. And be our companions. Your story is unique and it will be beautiful by the time your reach the end of the tunnel. All the best through your ups and downs.

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

I feel what you are going through. You dont need to doubt your thoughts , everything you feel is valid and accepted.

And you are trying to help yourself be happier and in a better position

and this is a way of you making self care.

i don’t feel you need ti warn her about him. She chose him. For her own reasons. And this is her journey and she will learn something out of it.

 

you learned your part and you are still learning and developing your self to feel better be better and improving.

talking to thearpie is a great way

I feel that you need sense of belonging which you might improve by joining classes, courses online and communities , i joined NVC with thom bond, and PDA positive discipline parenting, and Islamic Self improvement program. Theses communities help me feel heared inclusive. All of them are online. Because i have 14 months old boy. Even though its hard i di this because i need it to feel better about myself and the world.

its how i copes

Sherifa

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

what you are going through is tough and you are enduring it its been 2 years.
i can dee that you need company and need someone to share your feelings and fun time with.

in my situation i try to fill my needs from different sources.
if i need adventure i can do it with kids, make a party. If i feel desperate or sad and need to talk. I can di self help talking therapie.

make a list of your need and get creative from where you can fill theses needs.

sharing and communication i fill my needs

by y a course online and be part of this community. It helped me feel sense of belonging

so it might be that you need to feel you belong to something bigger

we as human need social communication
i am here if you you feel you want to share or talk.

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

Hi, i can hear the pain you are going through, and that you need to find peace with no mind games or any sort of abuse.

From what i have been through. I have been angry for sooooo long, i refused what happened, i wanted so badly to see heaven in earth.
it took me a while to get ti a resolution.. that it’s for my own good. What happened needed to happen for a reason. It can be to make me stronger and who i am now, to learn self love….to know knew people…to do something… and maybe i will never know. i do believe 100% it’s for my good… then i am grateful to the situation.

I started to forgive and let go feelings of anger and replace it bit by bit with emotions of disconnection with this person, and just see him as a person from this planet earth (can be greedy,selfish,unfair… everything is expected…. All of it) As if i am seeing if from very long distance.

Zero expectations… and whenever i feel the need for justice, acknowledgement of my feelings, hug, advice,assurance… i go to my trusted ones in my life

It’s very painful…it’s life…

I believe there will be moments of courage calmness and peace… ( just accepting that some days will have to deal with the other side of it.

 

 

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

You are going through lot of pain. You are very strong. I can hear how much  you want peace and calmness in your life. You are very strong to have survived theses years and you are very aware of his patterns of behaviours and how to you respond and this is very responsible and shows strong willingness to live and find a safe place.

i fee that there is compromisation between money and safety .

Money is safety for you which you are now sacrificing your calmness and safety for it.i feel that by the time you are ready for this step. You can start to rent on your own. And the price of freedom will be expensive.

how i wish there is no pain, how i wish there is no price to pay, how i wish i have no spent years from my life.

I am not aware of rules and benefits laws. Please meet a citizen advice or financial support who can map you how things will be.

you can do it by yourself. You have tried to help.you did your best. Follow your values what you wish you can do what you deserve.

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

Hiii,

I can hear from you that there is a lot going on in your head. Load of decisions you need to take on your own and you need a break from this hard work. you need security in your life ,you need to share your emotions and your responsibilities with someone you trust.

It is frustrating that we have to be working struggling all the time. all your need are valued and can be met to some extent.

in my opinion , i feel that you can take the steps to move out back to your flat. And make alternatives to the current situations because your mom has made it clear that she needs her space. And this is her right.it is sad 😔 it’s out path that we can take responsibility of. With the help of advices, our friends, and even mom being around on weekends.

i am not sure how nursery money can be paid while you work. As i didn’t take this step yet, i heard that gov pays back if you are a single parent.

i v seen a lot of people waiting till the age of 3 to ho back to work because of financial problems. Or work part time.

you need to recharge battery in order to have energy to communicate with live with your little one. You are her favourite person. She loves spending time with you. They grow up so fast .

what i learned is. Know your need and take this need from alternative means depending on the situation. We need to be flexible and accept theses alternatives.

you are strong and you will become stronger and wiser. It is somtimes very painful. Sometimes i wish there is no pain. But i started to accept this fact. Pain is not my enemy it is hear to teach me and help me grow.

 

al the love and support to you and me

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

you are right, being busy with children hived less time to overthink stuff. And at end of the day you feel like there is a sort of achievement which leave you with positive emotions🌸.

I experienced m  my self lots of days of happiness and fun . And other of emptiness and loss of direction.

it is clear that your are putting effort and working on moving on , i can hear that your live yourself and your children and that you are ready for the future.

I believe good things will happen. Even if it doesn’t like so in the beginning.it’s for the good.

lets see what we will be feeling the day they leave us in the first day at home znd go to school.

might be lonliness, relief, calmness, peace, fear.

all is embraced. And we need this pat on the back and that it’s ok to feel this. And then carry on in doing what we want to do untill we pick them up from school

[sherifa_sadek@yahoo.com]

i totally feel you. Lonliness can happen even if there are a lot of people around. It’s that connection that we need. Understanding, direction, similar interests.

its good that you are focusing of your child. That’s a decision that you made. And you are working .

i live in Manchester , but my daughter is 8 years old. And the little one is 1.

 

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