[Rose94]

Hiya, thanks for your reply. Muh appreciated. Yes, I had court earlier on today.

 

So the outcome was that because their is no law surrounding when children are allowed to be left on their own, technically their father wasn’t breaking any laws. However, given the fact my son has additional needs and the school have raised some concerns also, the court have got CAFCASS involved. Again.

The court have simply made me and his father “promise” verbally that neither of us will leave the children unsupervised at any given time. Unfortunately it’s not been put in the court order…so I’m simply going on trust….with a narcissist.

He’s got the children this weekend after me having them the last 4 weeks with not sending them due to safeguarding concerns.

As much as I’m frustrated (I really wanted the court to change the order and state he mustn’t leave them alone…atleast then if he broke the order there would be more of a punishment)…I am also somewhat relieved that it hasn’t gone to supervised contact and he has ended up having them this weekend.

I try and think of the bigger picture…as much as my son hates going..I want them to have a relationship with their father…but they also have a baby brother to him and their step mum, aswell as other connections and I know my daughter dotes on her dad. Unfortunately, I also rely on him (as much as I hate to say it) to have the children so I can still go to work.

I don’t have any friends where I live as I moved to a completely new city away from my home town 4 years ago to be in a relationship (which I’m now out of) and unfortunately I didn’t really make friends when I should have. My family all live back in my home town..about an hour/hour and a half away.

As for my mental health, I’m currently on sick leave (the stress of all this has gotten to me and I hate to admit- ive felt suicidal at the best of times). I’m being re reffered back to secondary mental health (who I’ve not long been discharged from) 🙁 I’m pretty gutted and feel like I’ve failed majorly as a parent on so many aspects and it gets super lonely. Its even more of a challenge with my son having his additional needs and we still aren’t any closer to getting a diagnosis although I’m certain he is autistic.

I know I will get through it, just think everything is taking its toll on me at the moment..and co parenting with a narcissist isn’t easy. X

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