[Robbo88]

We had the CAFCASS section 7 report come through last week.

Very encouraging stuff indeed 😄😄. What I was hoping for was court would ultimately view it as a co-parenting relationship that would need some work & that’s turned out to be the case. We’re getting referred to ICFA & they’re going to assist us with why we was conflicting, work around better communication & co-parenting in general.

Winner if u ask me 😄😄😄

[Robbo88]

Coming in with an update guys.

I had my first hearing at family court 2 week back.

CAFCASS ordered a section 7, so it’s just waiting for the next steps from now I guess.

In that time unfortunately I can’t have any direct contact with my daughter, i’m only getting photos & videos every 2 weeks sadly 🙁

Me & my ex have gone on the Together for Family Planning course & i’ve been told to enrol on parenting courses which I have done.

 

[Robbo88]

Well, some don’t unfortunately being harsh about it. Some definitely need to get a grip

That is exactly correct, I do have the date for the first hearing at family court in 4 weeks time & my ex should see is as a means of trying to address whatever & moving on.

As much as I’ll be reasonable I’ll certainly be firm in my own right as well.

[Robbo88]

I feel like I’ve gone over it all a million times today, but………..

My court application is in!!!!!!!!

Gonna start preparing for my CAFCASS phone call soon enough.

Now the fun does indeed begin!!!!!

[Robbo88]

Yeah of course it is, I’ve got to realise as well that my daughters mum does need supporting & this all needs doing in the right way as well, we split up 10 months ago.

That middle grounds still got to be discovered at this point.

It’s not good when ur ex makes hard life hard for ya when things aren’t hard enough.

Keep doing what your doing & thank you my support is there also whenever it’s needed x

 

[Robbo88]

Went to mediation for the 2nd time last Friday. This time me & the mediator surmised that it wouldn’t be the best course of action to be inviting my ex to it.

I’m getting the signed MIAM form & will be submitting it to court in due course.

In the meanwhile I will be preparing my statement, I will be doing my best to make it as child focused as possible & to try & be as fair as I can to my daughters mum whilst still being to the point all the while.

[Robbo88]

Quick post.

I moved into a house share.

went to mediation for the 2nd time this morning. Me & the mediator surmised that it wouldn’t be the best course of action to invite my ex. They have just sent me the signed C100 form to submit to court. All it’s waiting for is for me to pay for it. Then we’ll go from there.

My ex still not being great but I said to her anything u have to say, save it for your statement. My older brothers gonna be my McKenzie friend & I couldn’t think of anyone better to be that person for me cos ino he will back me up to the hilt!!!

[Robbo88]

Tbh with things with my daughter her mothers still being unreasonable & I don’t know how much longer it can go on for.

It’s all because my ex refuses to have it all in any other way but her way which is wrong & im not after being unreasonable at all. She seems to think that she doesn’t have to show me ab ounce of respect where what’s best for the child is to see both their mum & dad getting on.

The fact that I probably wont be seeing my daughter at Christmas is bad enough but (deep breaths) I’ll be sticking to my guns in the meanwhile.

In my personal life I’m still lodging with family & the best I’m looking to get in at the minute is a house share. Coz the end goal is having my daughter alternate weekends & also a day during the school hols which feels like a million miles off at the min. Then at least I can go from there with my own space again as a minimum.

I starred attending families need fathers meetings once a month & im now a member, they’ve been a great support to me & that’s what I need at the min, like minded folk who I can turn to.

[Robbo88]

Hey pal, hope your both good.

It’s just been a nightmare.

Thanks I can only hope as well tbh.

[Robbo88]

Hey guys I’ve not been on in a while & will try & be on at least once weekly.

My daughters mum refused mediation after I set it up & attended.

I’ve not seen my daughter for 3 months at present 🥲🥲🥲.

I’ve enquired at 2 solicitors so far, I still need to sort my housing situation out as I’m still at my sisters house at present.

My ex partner still not been nice about things the last couple of months, I am willing to say to her still, we have 1 more chance to sort this out before I do go down the legal route.

 

[Robbo88]

Hope that goes ok 4 u. Hopefully the desired outcome will surface. The least he should do is paying towards your childs needs.

[Robbo88]

Hey, i’d like to PM ya if it’s ok.

It sounds like u have been through a hard time & it sounds like your quite isolated tbh. Its wrong that ur ex partners not even paying u maintenance for the little 1.

He can’t just expect everything his own way, have u tried asking him if he’ll consider mediation to help you both come to a happy medium regarding your child? I’m jut about to do it with my ex-partner after i decided i didn’t want to co-parent our daughter with her anymore.

I’ll speak to you soon and try and get the maintenance money off him first off before anything else.

[Robbo88]

So I had my initial contact with mediation & i’m going to be setting up the MIAMs in the next week or so. It has been met with a tirade of abuse of my ex, but in the end i said, it’s for the greater good of things.

I’m gonna be putting my expectations forward in terms of what I want going forward, i’ll see how my ex responds & then we’ll go from there.

At every dark path theres always light at the end of the tunnel!!!!!!!!!!!

[Robbo88]

My ex so far doesn’t seem to be big on the idea of us going to mediation. As i’ve told her i don’t want to deal with her anymore co of how she was speaking to me but still want a relationship with my child this is the best way forward and it needs to be sold to her i think.

She’s tried saying to me i’ve got no rights as a parent & she has our daughter all the time, yes she does but the point is i’ve also got rights as well.

So this week i’ll see whats involved regarding setting it up.

 

[Robbo88]

Indeed it is!!!!!!’

Well he’s just another one & there’s not a chance I could be one of those guys. Hopefully if I have another kid in the future me & my future partner are actually gonna stay together this time. It’s uncompromisable for my daughter who’s on the earth now as I’m there for her till I’m no longer here, in every sense of the world. Anyway I’ll post how tomorrow goes I’ve a message ready to send to my ex.

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