I can completely empathise with your situation. Staying together through fear leads to regret and unhappiness. Staying together for the sake of the children leads to resentment and unhappiness and you still have a life to lead and looking to the future, someone you wish to be with when old and knackered!! Sometimes you need to rip off the plaster to enable the wound to heal.
Perhaps start slowly and amicably. Organise a co-parenting agreement. Who has the children and when.
Date but dont bring anyone to the family home.
See if the feelings are genuine.
Seek affordable accommodation organise monies rather than go down the Csa (official child support route) that will ensure your not wasting your cash. Try, really try to be amicable. The alternative is War and I promise you, you dont want that and the additional trauma to the children. Only too happy to chat…
