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(If you get carers element for your son you wont be expected to work at all)

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There are lots of factors that impact how much they expect you to work, you may be working enough depending on how much you earn. Definitely seek benefits advice!

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If i was with someone who thought I was great, but didn’t feel I was quite enough or thought about someone else a lot I would rather them talk to me about it than hide it.

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Lots of things can impact benefits but they often dont tell you about exceptions to rules unless you know about them first so definitely worth getting benefits advice to see if it’s correct

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Always happy to chat too 🙂

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I know exactly how you feel, when your child starts school you may find parents are more friendly. I would love to join the PTA but don’t really have the time!
I have no parent friends either and it can be a real struggle just to keep afloat. I am definitely my own best friend lately

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Sorry to hear you are having such a bad time, that sounds like enough to put anyone’s resolve to the test. Have you spoken to any friends/family about it?

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Help to claim from citizens advice may also help, found them really helpful in the past

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Welcome to the UK! How have you found it so far?
It does take a village, I wish I had a big family to raise my daughter in like I had.

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That’s a horrible thing to happen, being cheated on is a horrible feeling. Remember he is the fool not you! X

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If you trust his mum and don’t think he would actively try to hurt your daughter then it seems like it would be fine. You sound worried about it though so I’m guessing something about it feels unsafe?

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Hiya welcome.

Sounds totally normal. Have you talked to friends or seen a Dr about it? Either might help.

Its a big change between having someone live with you everyday and having someone with you some of the time. Finding it difficult makes sense.

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I’m in a similar situation, it is really scary.

Not having a support network is difficult, humans are definitely supposed to live in groups and I always seem to find myself largely alone because I’m independent and busy.

My fix is rather than dating I’m setting out more time for old friends/making new ones.

I’m trying to get more involved in my community and just put down roots and get to know people. I know I won’t make friends straight away, but it seems like a good foundation for that.
I’m unsure about relationships, they always take a lot out of me and I think I’d rather have friends. But there are other advantages to a relationship!

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I think talking to her about this is the only way forward, but perhaps think about why you didn’t try to make things work before before you do.

I hope everything works out for you both.

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Welcome!

I’m in the East Midlands but nice to meet you!

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