[Penny297]

Oceanlover this is so good to hear! I am really struggling with my husband who can’t understand why I can’t give it one more chance (he has had several) we are still living together and haven’t told the children so it’s really grinding me down putting on a front at the same time as having him beg me not to separate but I really feel like I don’t love him anymore and would only be doing it for everyone else like I have done for years.

Can I ask how you told the children and how they have responded? It’s my biggest fear xx

[Penny297]

Thanks BrightonGem.

Yes I agree it is emotional black mail but he did it previously and it worked so I think it’s his ‘go to’ tactic but then I feel awful because what if he did do something! I highly doubt it but he will leave the house late at night and purposely send me messages that sound like a ‘last goodbye’.

I had agreed to stay until after Christmas to give him a chance to get on his feet but all he’s seen it as is time to change my mind.  It doesn’t matter how many times I tell him that isn’t happening.  He will be fine for a few days then when he mentions anything about me giving him another chance he breaks down and starts saying the children would cope better with his death than divorce (he can’t be reasoned with).

I just feel exhausted with the charade in front of the children and then knowing once they are in bed we will end up having the same conversation again. Do your children know?

He says he is staying in the house and will buy me out but I worry that come January he will just keep stalling,

 

[Penny297]

Oceanlover this sounds just like my situation. He has been given chances in the past and now he knows I’m serious he’s suddenly pulling out all the stops but it’s just too liars for me. I feel selfish as know the children will be heartbroken but just don’t feel like that should be my only reason to live the rest of my life with someone I don’t love. Happy to message anytime x

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