[pdazz]

Hello

I’m new on here,

Teenagers! yep, got one of those😁 mine is 16 yr old daughter (have another older daughter and son who have flown the nest so to say)

my turning point was reading the Chimp Paradox back in 2020, it sure did change my life. I’m divorced now since 2022 and went through the family court to have my daughter live with me. Quite a journey I had ( as well as my daughter) but all good has come in the end. I gave up ages ago trying to nag her about cleaning her room, dishes in sink, laundry piling up, me coming downstairs in the morning to find kitchen in a mess from midnight feast! Blah blah blah…

Yeah of course I’m there for her but I let her get on with it, those things aren’t important, stability and security is what they need, that’s all. 😁👍

[pdazz]

Hello,

The answer is YES! it will get easier, like you say, you can’t control how your husband acts. stay focused, you have your children who really need you now.

I also didn’t think I would be here, but yep, live changes and does throw us some challenges, stay focused and be kind to yourself, don’t blame yourself, take a walk outside even if its for a few mins.

best wishes

[pdazz]

Hello,

I’m a newbie as well, has there been any progress? I went through a situation a little similar (without the drinking issue) the financial side was very hard and I can completely understand your situation especially with children involved.

[pdazz]

Hello,

it was the opposite for me, I was the victim of DA (not physical though and only realised this DA once I left the family home)

I went through the court process to gain custody of my teenage daughter who needed stability and needed to be kept on the straight and narrow as she was with the wrong crowd, the court process worked for me and most of all it worked for my daughter, I also had great support from Social Services who really helped us both out, maybe they might be the first point of call for you? or a mediation service? I’m not going to lie, the court process for me being a full time working dad was expensive and quite stressful but as long as you have a finish line you want want to get to, no hurdles will ever get in your way. This all started in 2021 when I had to move in to my mums house but now since 2022 me and my daughter have our own place now and she really has grown up! all I can advise is stick with what you feel will be best, you’ll know, stay focused on what you know is best for you both. best wishes pdazz

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