[Paul.R]

Its tough and a hard one Liz and 7 years wow you have done amazingly well. I have had 6 months with the 3 of them the youngest being 6but some hope mum might have them back a few nights in the future.

I am also constantly on the edge of burn out and  cringe when I am asked on a Moday morning at work did you have a good weekend not bad I say 5 loads of washing, 3 baths, breakfast cooked and dinner, one hour battle with the youngest to do her hair, Chess with the eldest, Middle one grunts and groans to deal with all day, Clothes ironed, House cleaned top to bottom again lol, What about you I say.

As hard as it is and hey I say again 7 years now you do deserve an MBE but there worth it and we can be proud xx. Hang in there message you you want a chat.

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I cured the issue by not dating , Probably not the way to go but Mmmmmm

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Chin up Dam lots of hope from my point of view as im 66 with the youngest at 6 making you very desirable lol

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You cant carry on like you are and not the best way to do things but if your in a corner borrow as much money as you can all in one hit pay deposits and forward rent off your credit cards. Do not repay and in the end they will force the sale of your house and give you the balance.Once you move your credit rating will slip as new address so will be hard after moving .

Again I say not the best way by far and will damage your credit but a last resort an option. Good luck Mike.

[Paul.R]

Full time dad with the youngest at 6 , Thoughts are with you but it will get easier as time goes on. Looks like you have some new friends already. Chin up and be strong x

[Paul.R]

Hi Neil, My ex cheated as well and then left me the kids out the blue .

First and foremost you should start by having your son on a regular basis and doing things dads do, Take him for a McDonalds and increase from there. If your able start to have him stay over . It is as important to him as it is to you to be a good father in his life and I am sure you will both be rewarded emotionally in the long term.

Message me if you feel the need Neil and I hope I have been of some help.

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Hi Bdg, Left with 3 children youngest 6 with no warning a few months after we split so know how you are feeling. As others have said you must share your thoughts and problems with others . Seek friends and family support. Try and get some time to yourself by having family take your child for a few hours and catch up on that sleep. I often wonder where it all went wrong with my ex but i also agree its mainly a waste of time and emotion and are they rarely worth it.

Now at 2 years old though 6 months away  you can get funded child care which again will give you that much needed break you so desperately look for. Thoughts are with you and battle on one day at a time Paul x

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Hi Clane, So sorry to here you have become a one parent family and as one myself I know its tough.

In relation to your post You can claim housing benefit but this is means tested and there will be a maximum housing benefit limit you can claim. Check with your local council to see what this is. Were in Norfolk and ours is about £600.00 a month. Good luck with your flat hunting Clane and I hope you find somewhere soon.

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Chin up as im a 66 year old dad with 3 kids lol

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Hi Olivia, Also  single with 3 kids 6 to 14 and same as you accept for one very good friend. He dosnt live local and in the same situation as yourself. One idea I did come up with was to go on holiday with a distant friend who has a 14 year old thought being they will be off playing ect leaving 2 children and 2 adults to share the load. Hope this helps and you find someone to share your burden soon.

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So sorry to here your plight but until you are over him is it even fair to date. If you did and the guy fell for a women who loved another man that would be awful. Your x does not deserve your love and some how you need to get over him.

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Just a year since we split up and she left me with the 3 kids. I have devoted myself to keeping a roof over there heads and looking after them so no dating here. Is that sad ?

[Paul.R]

O I do feel for you and teens do tend to distance from there parents and other kids give a great way of doing that thus her liking for the other home. Maybe more days out with your partner may help. Im sure in the end as she grows older your bond will return. x

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