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Hi Haribo how far along in your pregnancy are you ? Is the mortgage in only your name or you and your husband ? Contact your mortgage provider and explain what has happened. I know your self employed but I would consider getting a remote job if your not to far along. Once the baby is born put your ex on child maintenance. If the mortgage is only in your name I would downsize as its only you and to pay for the mortgage and heating the home is not necessary. Depending on how bad things are, I would say file for bankruptcy. Speak to your mortgage provider, bill providers, debtors and explain the change in your circumstances.Sit down and look at all your expenses and cut out anything that is not necessary. Any luxury or subscriptions you no longer use and sell what you no longer use. Vinted is a great app to sell clothes and eBay is great for items in good condition. Instead of buying food go to local food banks with a trolley. You can get some amazing good quality food from them. That way you can cut out food expenses and use that money towards bills. Speak to step change a debt management agency and explain your situation.  They will also point you in the right direction. Also google charities for debt and pregnant women. Did you know you can get a £500 government grant (<span style=”color: #363636; font-family: Lato, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;”>Sure Start Maternity Grant) </span>once your have 11 weeks left of pregnancy or once the child is up to 6 months. If you apply after 6 months you wont get it. I hope that helps but stay positive if you need to stop working. Apply for Universal credit if you need housing the council will house you as your pregnant and on benefit.

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Stop reaching out to him go Quiet and let him contact you. It sounds like he is being very attention seeking. When you stop giving him the desperate attention. You will give him time to come to his senses. If necessary if after a few months he doesn’t reach out take him to court and put him on child maintenance.

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I think a psychologist for you and your son would be the best route. Also speak to the dad and explain your concerns. As well as speak to your son about it and how it makes you feel. You cant control what comes out of the dads mouth. However try your best to not speak ill of him. In due time your son will grow and see that his dad is manipulative.

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https://centrepoint.org.uk/about-us/blog/pregnant-and-homeless-a-guide-to-support-during-pregnancy/#

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Hi hun my names Michelle i’m also pregnant. For you and your baby its best that he has walked out your life. See it as a blessing because it could have turned physical and you dont need the stress. Please see a link attached for support available you may not be homeless but its very useful. You can get a £500 government grant when you have 11 weeks left of your pregnancy. Also you may get healthy start food vouchers from when you are 10 weeks pregnant. They will send you a pre paid card and you will get £17 a month. Have you got any friends that can support you during your labour. There are a lot of charities available to help single pregnant women.There are also support groups for single mums so have a google. If he doesn’t want to come to the scans that is his loss. The best thing to do is not to contact him and let him contact you. I would look into child maintenance as well as this would force him to contribute to the child. Try and find a local community centre were you live. That offer activities you can get involved with. You can create a support system with like minded people without being blood related. I would also recommend prayer or meditation and staying off social media. If you have any ambitions or dreams pursue them i.e training, a blog etc and read mindset books. In life it will throw you lemons make lemonade. Make the best out of your situation. I hope that helps 🙂

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Try sour cherry juice before bed for you and the baby. It works as a sleep aid to help you sleep better and longer you can find it in asda or polish shops.

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