[marths]

Hello

Yes all I can do is take it 1 day at a time I suppose, even if some days are more difficult than others .
I guess all we can do is our best and just move on , I find great comfort in giving myself praise for just getting through a day or even just waking up and doing the most basic things

If I didn’t do that, I don’t think I would be able to cope .

Also hearing that it’s okay to feel down sometimes is also comforting . I feel we are often expected to just be strong but being strong 24/7 is exhausting especially with minimal sleep and emotional trauma.
So if today is not a good day and you don’t feel like you’re doing great, it’s okay. Just get through the day and you can start again tomorrow

[marths]

Hello

It’s a very difficult situation but it’s important to put your son first in all of it. I grew up in a domestic violence household with my brother and honestly it does impact the kids . The sooner you get him away from that, the better . They needs to fix their relationship and can not allow physical fights especially to occur in front of your son. It sets a bad example and also can be traumatising .

I can’t help you with how to move forward with regard to social service and things but I would suggest maybe trying to get your son to be with you until the other household is stable again. At the age of 7 your son is old enough to understand what’s going on unfortunately even if it’s not in depth .

I hope that helps somehow. You’re already doing the right thing by looking into the options of how you can protect your son . Keep following that intuition . Even if you and your ex do not get a long, something are just far more important . Her safety is also of great concern. She need to protect herself the sake of your son as well.

[marths]

Hi

I’m glad to hear that you’re getting the hang of things . What are some of the ways you’ve coped ? It still amazes me how someone can live life so easily knowing they’ve got a child and are not responsible for them at all . Do you ever think about what you’ll tell your son when he’s older ?

perhaps in a couple of months I’ll feel better with my son too. These early days have been difficult l, trying to raise a child while dealing with heartbreak is difficult, I’ve been on my own since I was pregnant . My sons father doesn’t know his name, birthday , gender …nothing. He was present for the first 6 months of my pregnancy and when I found out he had been cheating on me for over a year, he decided to block me from everything .

But I find strength is having support from family and friends even if they don’t understand and just managing to get up every day and raise my son.

I look forward to hearing more about how you’re managing as our sons are closer in age . Let me know

thanks for the response

[marths]

Hello Helen

thank you very much , I will make use of those tools and work on getting my mental health back on track

I will speak to my health visitor about the PPD  and try to get a better understanding of what it is and what the signs are . Sometimes I’m not sure whether it is that or just general depression which I’ve suffered from before .

thank you again

[marths]

Hi

Thank you so much, I appreciate this so much . I have looked into the universal credit but the housing association is a little bit hard to figure out but I will check out the links they’ve provided on here .

I really feel like having my own space will allow me and my mom to have a better relationship . Although I appreciate everything she’s doing, it’s sometimes overwhelming as she can make me feel bad for having a say when it comes to my son.

knowing you go through what you went through and your child is now 3 gives me a sense of hope. My son is only a month old and I’ve already been looking for a way out ! I can’t wait for him to be able to walk and talk, just so I can get some independence back . I feel guilty about that sometimes

 

but your message really has given me a sense on encouragement, it’s nice to feel heard and not judged .

thank you

[marths]

Hello

I can’t do a coffee as my baby is still very new (1mnth) but feel free to private message and just connect. Sometimes it helps just to talk to someone new 🙂

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