[Mandy2022]

Hi kimdawn. I’m seven weeks in, we were together for 16 years. What you’re experiencing is definitely the norm and we all need to give ourselves time to grieve without feeling as though we should be miraculously over it. The only way I can describe how I’m feeling is that I’m experiencing all of the emotions of grief but I also feel as though I’m floating and it isn’t really my life. As though I’m watching someone else go through such a horrible emotional rollercoaster. I keep having set backs too. Like finding out there is another ‘girl’ involved. This is a great forum to get support and if you ever need to talk please just send a message!

[Mandy2022]

This is a difficult read, my husband recently left and I’m really struggling with seeing all of the happy families. I’m so sorry you’re still feeling this way 2 years on. I’ve no advice really as I haven’t found a way through, are there any local groups you could join?

[Mandy2022]

Hi MotherHood. Sorry to hear about your situation. Was your mum the sole tenant of the housing association property? I would suggest giving Shelter a ring so you know your rights re them asking you to leave and what the council should be doing.

[Mandy2022]

Hi sweet_tooth. Thank you it’s so good to know that things can move into functioning better. Some days I feel ok and determined that I’m going to use the time to take care of myself. Then other days there is a crushing feeling of overwhelm and grief for the things we will miss out on. I really hope things continue to get easier for you. I’m also trying to let go of things I can’t control, but it’s just impossible to not be thinking about who he’s out with and why all of a sudden I’m right at the bottom of the list of people he wants to talk to. When only four weeks ago I was at the top.

[Mandy2022]

Thank you Anotherstatistic, it’s good to know it gets easier. I keep trying to hold on to that! I hope you’re managing to take time for yourself to help heal.

[Mandy2022]

It’s so good to hear that other people are getting through something which feels so hard right now. Anotherstatistic you’re doing so well if you are managing after six months, I’ve done a month now and I have to admit it feels as though it happened only yesterday, it just feels so raw still.
TaniaL – The thought of a divorce just fills me with utter dread. I cant imagine how people get through that. You sound like you’ve done absolutely amazing!

[Mandy2022]

I’m so sorry you’re still feeling that way anon321, have you ever considered any form of counselling? I can see myself getting to a point where I might have to talk to a stranger about how I’m feeling.

[Mandy2022]

It’s so horrid that there are so many people going through this. But I think it’s also easy to feel totally alone, with everyone around you seeming happy, so knowing people are going through similar is somewhat comforting. I think kids are a saviour in this, they make you get up and do another day. Please feel free to get in touch if you need to talk too.

[Mandy2022]

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through similar redwineforone. It’s totally heart wrenching. I’m hoping I can still be ‘friends’ to some degree with my husband for the kids. How are you feeling four months later? I can’t imagine four months is long enough to feel any less heartbroken.

[Mandy2022]

Thank you, it’s good to know others have got through it. I don’t have any friends who aren’t in happy marriages and so finding people to lean on has been difficult. I just can’t understand any of it, and am really not at the accepting stage. I just don’t get it, we were happy, we didn’t argue, we did things together and we were affectionate. My head has been totally messed up by it.

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