[Majula]

Hi,

sorry to hear about your recent separation, it’s hard to suddenly become a single parent. It’s a big change in our lives.
And it has its advantages too. When your situation becomes more ‘settled’, it will be easier. I love being mother to my baby boy. And being single parent I feel less stressed (I used to be when living with his dad), I can freely organise activities, outings, with him, be more spontaneous…

maybe I might inspire you with ideas I planned for our Christmas, you can do with your child too?: create our own Christmas traditions, like make gingerbread, make paper chains, with my baby we will do Christmas themed messy play and water play, go for a walk to local playground, sing Christmas songs, watch Christmas movies,… chill, have a slow and relaxing time at home.
This will be my first Xmas as a single parent, after his dad left us.

please message me if you want to.

[Majula]

ps: his dad has an anger issue. He is happy to play with him but wants me to around… I worry that once he is out there with our baby, if there is a challenge, he might not cope so well… I don’t know…

[Majula]

Hi,

sorry to hear about your difficult time you have been going through. It takes time to heal. I personally would not chase ‘friends’  for support, if they are too busy to see you and give you a hug… but don’t close any doors. I would rather concentrate on new. Go out with your children, do nice things with them, as they are finding your separation hard too. If you don’t feel like being initiative to make new connections, joining local groups etc, just go out, to the park, swimming pool, cinema with them… going outdoors being amongst other people might uplift you.
when my ex left us, I was given an advice by my health visitor (who was also a single mother): ‘be strong’.
look at the blessings you have…

I see your ex will have the children too. Many dads don’t see their children at all.

Love to you.

[Majula]

Hi,

thank you, I appreciate your comments, spot on. My son is so small, I love him so much and want to keep him happy and safe. I worry when such ‘disturbance’ arises, it takes away my peace. Fortunately his dads attitude changed not long after those messages he sent me, I think he realised him being unreasonable? Anyway, I so agree with you, thank you!!

[Majula]

Hello,

im in Alton

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