[Kate1214]

Nice to see this ☺️ I joined hoping to have to courage to say just that but didn’t at the time. It’s a lonely journey sometimes x

[Kate1214]

Is it a subject you feel you can speak about with him or does it not end well?

drinking  isn’t the problem maybe … rather the making it secretive? Can u speak about why it’s necessary to drink while he’s there?

[Kate1214]

It doesn’t sound like it will be positive for the children or either Of u to move back in … equally sounds like the situation you’re in is tricky 😞 space will help even if it’s not the perfect scenario right now.

Can u get any help at all with benefits to get settled in your own place?

[Kate1214]

Thank you, I’m sure time is the best thing here but never have been the most patient person!

I appreciate I have it a lot easier than most, we are very amicable, he is always asking how I want things to be and realises I’m not where he is yet, the children are taking it really well too which is obviously a huge weight off my mind.

hope this is a fresh week for everyone x

[Kate1214]

Long ha …. Feel like it’s really set me back when I was doing so well. Stayed busy, did things for myself but just opened up the fact that I have to share my kids and I never wanted that.

I’m so happy to hear people further down the line that are managing and finding different ways to manage it and I know il get there. Just feels a long wait to be at that point.

[Kate1214]

Really happy for you that it’s worked out like that and you’re managing to try again. Think people change and u have to appreciate that of each other and recognise it. Sounds like you’re both able to do that now.

[Kate1214]

I agree, think it’s the familiarity that is missed and being so comfortable with a person. Hard to know the boundaries of a friendship rather than a relationship I’m finding … when you’ve been together for so long and knew every part of their life it’s strange to now not know what they’re up to but knowing it’s not your place to know is hard …

[Kate1214]

Feel like I could have written this …. Together for all our adult life, 2 children but only separated a month. We’re very amicable and chat every day, really want to be able to be friends and have the relationship that way but struggling to know how to go from one to another …

do you see him quite often still for the children? Surely it’s normal to still want the ease that you had in the relationship … even knowing it wouldn’t work again doesn’t make it easy to forget

[Kate1214]

Really hope you have good support, people may not realise how much you need them until you reach out. It will help to talk x

[Kate1214]

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[Kate1214]

Same … always up to chat, only recently separated and finding evenings quite long … my kids are 8 and 10 so early to bed and leaves a long evening to fill

[Kate1214]

I get that, the groups are so painful sometimes but I realised that’s because so many people are feeling the same. If nothing else they do just give u something to do in a day even if you don’t manage to speak to the other parents.

[Kate1214]

You’re so brave to reach out and say it like it is. I am very recently separated with 2 children, 8 and 10 … husband had worked away lots so am used to being alone with them but since we separated it’s a new level of lonely. To be home with a young one the days seem long don’t they, do you have groups locally you can go to and meet other parents?

[Kate1214]

Have you tried baby and toddler groups locally? I found it very hard to meet people when the children were young and was so lucky to have a friend that forced me to these groups to meet more people.

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