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Legal professionals serve their own interest, no one else’s, sadly.

I hear what you are saying.

Far too often, children are used by mothers as a pawn against fathers with access and parental alienation.

• When in essence, the far majority of father’s, simply want equal access and input to their children. It’s the only control weponised against fathers that far too many mothers use. I’m not suggesting this is the case with Parentquant. Just that, even if it’s 50/50 and the father earns more, doesn’t mean he needs to pay maintenance because he earns more. Infact I’m confident that the children would benefit more as he would have more affordability for the children when with him. On the other side of the coin, Parentquant wouldn’t have to spend as much when the children are with their father and have more resources when she does have them. As for matters with the home, that’s totally different to 50/50 shared residency.

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I feel you need to be getting the correct advice from people who are more knowledgeable.

Obviously there’s the option to pay for legal advice or use the many free organisations available.

Play your cards close to your chest, get all the information you need before discussing anything further.

I understand it’s easy for myself or anyone to be saying this or that, but until you discuss you’re situation with more knowledgeable people you won’t know where you actually stand. It’s a hard, painful process. But try to think long term, what will be best first for the children and work for both parents in the continued raising of them

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As his mother you automatically have parental responsibility. By him being on the birth certificate, he does too. By the sounds of things, you just keep doing what you’re doing, if you need to make a medical decision DO IT!, If you need to travel, also do it. I’m pretty sure (not 100%) any parent with parental responsibility can take a child on holiday upto 28 days without concent. Unless stated in a child arrangement order.

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1. I had full 50/50 shared residency for 3 years before full custody. Which had nothing to do with financial gain, it was to remain as much as possible in my sons life. Fortunately, his mother understood that and agreed to it not for financial gain on her part, but for what was best for our child. This is key, what’s best for the children. There were no issues with bed hopping as suggested by Honnor Twigg, infact, in my opinion, I find her whole second bullet point quite financially motivated.
2. Every child has a right to both patents. More here than there is a load of nonsense Money can’t replace missed time with either parent.

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Are you married? Is he on the birth certificate? Is the child benefit paid to you? Do you have a child arrangement order from the courts?

• As the mother you automatically have full parental responsibility. In laimen terms you have full custody.

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Louise, Busman403 is right, speak to Gingerbread help line. There’s also child law, who are very helpful, 03003305480. The line gets very busy, just keep trying, multiple times, you will get through. You can ring them as many times as you like for advice along your journey (there will be bumps along the way)

Don’t pay to much attention to being told you’re entitled to nothing. It doesn’t quite work like that. May I ask, buying you out of what?

You also do have a right to child maintenance, absolutely!

If you need any more moral support, just give me a shout.

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Hi Lizzik, I can relate totally to how you’re feeling. I’ve been single several months now and I’m still like an empty shell with nothing inside, I still get the anxiety sensations and no matter if I’m working, home or on dadddy duty there’s that part 9f the mind that is constantly ticking away. People said things would get better in time, but sadly, for me, it’s not the case.

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