[Hermione12213]

Hi hun, bless you, I’m new to this site, but you’re doing a wonderful job navigating all of this emotional turmoil while looking after your little baba and everything that that entails 💕

And I get why you are thinking about blocking him completely. Don’t want to assume how you are feeling, but I imagine you might feel angry/ frustrated but most likely exhausted by it all- jeez the lack of sleep, it’s such hard work on your own, it’s relentless! My advice would be not to block him completely though (block his social connections as that’s setting boundaries) but leave the door open on the phone as long as he’s not harassing you, in the hope that either he or his family reaches out. And more importantly that one day when baba asks about his dad you can say you gave them a way to get in touch.

I left my ex when my son was 3 weeks old, due to multiple infidelities and emotional abuse. When my son was 2.5 years old he spent time with his dad again, it was the hardest thing emotionally I’ve ever done. My son is now 4.5, sees him frequently and is better for having him in his life, it’s bloody difficult, but at least I will never have the guilt of coming in between them.

Look after yourself hun and Take care x

[Hermione12213]

Hello lovely people, I’m new to this group.

My daughter, who is the sweetest girl in the world, can also at times be a like beelzebub!!!

It’s difficult because she’s got all those hormones flying around too, just started high school so huge changes yet again (on top of living in 2 homes) friend dilemmas, spot problems, timetable confusion etc etc.

She’s got a lot going on in her little world as I assume a lot of your children do too. So like always, the mum guilt/ anxiety kicks in and I feel like crap that I’m not doing enough for her. I can’t provide as much as her dad can financially, I can’t drive so feel like her life with me is restricted, and I constantly feel guilt ridden that she lives in 2 homes and has to move between them both each week so may effect her school experience/ homework; which means I give her a pass for being a bit (very) rude at times 🤦‍♀️ The guilt literally keeps me up at night!

I’ve had lots of therapy over the years, recently  due to my sons father- that’s another story-  but one of the things the therapist said which stuck with me, was when your children test you it’s because they feel safe enough to do so without repercussion, because they know you love them and they are therefore able to push those boundaries to such an extent because they know you will never reject them and will always love them- essentially unconditional love💕 Haha, doesn’t help at the time, but remembering this healthy attachment gets me through the tough moments.
Take care all and night x

[Hermione12213]

Hi Tracey, and Andrew, hope you are both doing ok?

Aww I get how you are both feeling.
I find I have an ok few days then I feel really sad again, (sometimes due to obvious triggers) and other days I feel so isolated, alienated from my children and very lonely🤦‍♀️ Thank goodness for Audible and Netflix ☺️

In fact I’ve just re- joined this site again as I thought I’d get some help / perspective hopefully from other single parents going through the same stuff.
My daughter has just started high school and my son primary school – which have been incredibly challenging for different reasons, so it’s been a big few weeks. My crohns isn’t great either, probably stress related, so I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself. But we plod on don’t we 😊

Night all and take care, Vic x

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