[Goingitalone2022]

Thank you Futurehappiness for your reply. I am trying really hard to cut myself some slack. It is reassuring to know that further down the line there is some hope of things being a bit better. Everyone keeps telling me to focus on me and what I want but all I want is my children with me and a husband who loves me.

[Goingitalone2022]

I am so sorry to read you have been treated this way. I know exactly what you mean about the hurt, I am still hurting too from my break up and everything is so raw. I guess time is a healer. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but just to let you know you are not alone xxx

[Goingitalone2022]

Absolutely speak to him, it is not your responsibility to make sure he sees his daughter! As long as you are not standing in the way, which by the sounds of it you are not, then it is on him to make the effort to spend time with her and make sure she knows she is loved by him and he cares about her. You need to lay down the law and tell him you want a set routine of when he will see her so you can manage your daughter’s expectations and emotions and if he doesn’t bother then he won’t see her until the next time is due. I know it is heartbreaking seeing your daughter suffer but he needs to step up!

[Goingitalone2022]

Hi, I am so sorry you are going through this and you have discovered he has been deceiving you with an affair!

My husband left me 11 weeks ago and I still don’t really know what led him to make such a snap decision, we were enjoying our newly landscaped garden a few days before and discussing what trees we want to get to finish it off. I felt such a fool when he left and utterly broken. Things were not very amicable to begin with but 11 weeks in the anger is starting to reduce and I feel like I can have a conversation with him. We have two children together and they are my only priority in all of this and if that means being polite to their dad then so be it.

I am finding now though that the anger has reduced I have this horrible ache in my heart and I don’t know how to ease it. It’s not constant, if I am working or busy with the kids I am distracted but then it catches me off guard and I feel overwhelmed by the enormity of the situation.

I guess what I am trying to say is that a time will come when you will be able to function properly but it may take quite a while for your heart to heal so be kind to yourself. Cut yourself slack and put yourself first. I am learning I need to heal my own heart by learning to love myself again and value myself above any man. It’s really hard and I don’t know if I have even properly begun that journey yet but I am determined I will get there.

If ever you need to talk feel free to message me.

[Goingitalone2022]

If you use the entitled to calculator it will give you an approximate amount.

[Goingitalone2022]

It’s comforting to know I’m not alone. My ex has now sorted himself out somewhere to live so I am also now facing having half my week without my children. I am just not sure how I will cope with this new life.

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